I Believe

I believe in miracles and dreams that will come true.
I believe in tender moments and friendship, through and through.

I believe in stardust and moonbeams all aglow.
I believe there’s surrealness and pure bliss.

I believe in reaching out and touching from the heart
I believe that if we touch a gift we can impart.

I believe that if you cry your tears are not in vain.
And when you’re sad and lonely, others know your pain.

I believe that when we laugh a sparkle starts to shine.
And I just know that spark will spread from more hearts than just mine.

I believe that hidden in the quiet of the night,
there’s magic moths and gypsies a fairy and a sprite.

I believe that if you dance the dances of your heart,
that greater happiness will find a brand new way to start.

I believe the gifts you have are there for you to share.
And when you give them from the heart, the whole world knows you care.

I believe that if you give, even just to one,
that gift will grow in magnitude before the day is done.

I believe that comfort comes from giving part of me.
And if I share with others, there’s more for all to see.

I believe that love is still the greatest gift of all,
and when it’s given from the heart then not one of us will fall.

 

2022 Skills Outlook

 

Growing

  1. Analytical thinking and innovation
  2. Active learning and learning strategies
  3. Creativity, originality and initiative
  4. Technology design and programming
  5. Critical thinking and analysis
  6. Complex problem solving
  7. Leadership and social influence
  8. Emotional intelligence
  9. Reasoning, problem-solving and ideation
  10. Systems analysis and evaluation

Declining

  1. Manual dexterity, endurance and precision
  2. Memory, verbal, auditory and spatial abilities
  3. Management of financial, material resources
  4. Technology installation and maintenance
  5. Reading, writing, math and active listening
  6. Management of personnel
  7. Quality control and safety awareness
  8. Coordination and time management
  9. Visual, auditory and speech abilities
  10. Technology use, monitoring and control

Take a Risk

The world is waiting for you! Behind the masses of those that wish to watch you lead a quiet and sedentary life is an open, unlined canvas. I urge you to take a chance, to push past barriers of negativity and oppression of self fulfillment and paint the picture of who YOU want to be. Never let yourself be beat down for living your life by those too afraid to live their own. There is a difference between risking your life and taking a risk at having one. I know which side I would rather be on, do you?

The Honor Code

Honor is one of the key virtues that everyone should strive to possess.   In simple terms Honor refers to the quality of knowing and doing what is morally right.

Below are the 7 Core Behaviors for Honorable Leadership.

  1. Tell the truth, even when it is difficult – avoid duplicity and deceitful behavior.
  2. Treat others with dignity and respect – take the lead and show value to others.
  3. Keep your word and your commitments – ask for relief sooner than later if necessary.
  4. Be ethical – operate within the laws of the land, the guidelines of your profession and the policies of your employer.
  5. Act responsibly; do your duty and be accountable – own your mistakes and work to do better in the future.
  6. Be courageous – lean into the pain of your fears to do what you know is right even when it feels unnatural or uncomfortable.
  7. Live your values – be faithful to your spiritual core, your conscience and your deepest intuitions.

Valor

 

The following excerpt is from one of my favorite movies “Act of Valor”

at the very end of the movie are the timeless words of wisdom which if we abide  by, would make our world a better place to live in.

But first let’s go back to the ABC’s and get the definition of this symbolic noun.

Valor by definition means: courage, fearlessness, courageousness, braveness, heroism, boldness, gallantry, daring, fortitude.

“Live your life such that the fear of death can never enter your heart

trouble no one about his/her religion

respect others and their views and demand they respect yours

love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life

seek to make you life long and of service to your people

when your turn comes to die,

be not like those whose hearts who are filled with fear of death

so that when the time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way

sing your death song

and die like a hero going home.”

My favorite definition of Valor is Fortitude which in simple terms means Strength of mind that allows one to endure pain or adversity with courage.

May you have that mental toughness to live your life with Valor.

The secret of confidence

“The secret of confidence is focusing on what you can control, not on what you can’t.” – Mira Kirshenbaum

Self-confidence is the key to emotional energy.

Without confidence, everything can feel like an uphill battle or an impossible hurdle.

Instead of a bounce in your step, or springing to action, you drag your feet, or you expect the worst. Just imagine the energy you would get if you knew you couldn’t fail.

Confident People Focus on What They Can Control

There is a way. But you have to focus on the right thing. In the case of confidence, knowing what to focus on is more than half the battle.

It’s everything!

If you ever feel a loss of confidence or find yourself in the No-Confidence Trap, you need to know how to break out of it. To break out of it, you need to first understand how it works.

Basically, you lose your confidence when you focus on the wrong things. People that lack confidence focus on the outcomes. They focus on the times they struck out, their mistakes, their failures, and disasters.

Basically, they focus on the things they can’t control. Confident people on the other hand, focus on what they can control, such as taking action or giving their best.

This one little distinction is the key to building your unshakeable confidence and getting back on the saddle again.

Confidence is the Holy Grail

When it comes to energy, confidence is the key.

In people’s lifelong journey to improve themselves, confidence is the Holy Grail. With it, you can walk on water. Without it, you’re soggy toast. That’s why we all want it. What gives you more emotional energy than confidence, than knowing that you can step up to the challenge and win?

With great confidence, comes great results. But it’s the journey and how you approach things that makes the difference.

“Why Try?”

When you don’t have any confidence, you will be emotionally drained. You’ll expect things to go wrong, and they will, and this will suck you down.

Loss of confidence is devastating for our emotional energy. Without confidence, the two most horrible words in the English language take hold of us: ‘Why try?’ These words are horrible because they’re the beginning of doom for any enterprise we care about, including love.

Losing your confidence is one way to feel emotionally drained, as if you can’t win.

Focus on What You Control

Rather than focus on the end-results, focus on the effort you put in and the attitude you choose when you face your challenges. These are the things you can control.

The secret of confident people is that they focus on what they know they can do and then they do that in the best way they can. And they don’t worry about the outcome. The batter steps up to the plate. All he can do is keep his eye on the ball and do his best. That’s what all the good hitters do.

Key Take Aways

Here are my key take aways:

  • A loss of confidence drains you emotionally. Without confidence you can’t see a way out or you approach things half-heartedly. When you approach things half-heartedly, you lose. It’s a downard spiral.
  • You can break the No-Confidence Trap if you know how. The No-Confidence Trap is a vicious cycle: You can’t win without confidence and you can’t get confidence without winning. However, it’s easy to break out of the No-Confidence Trap, if you know how.
  • Focus on what you control. Don’t focus on outcomes. You can’t control the outcomes for a situation. To build your confidence, you have to focus on what you control, not on what you can’t. This is the sure-fire way to break out of the No-Confidence Trap and build or rebuild your confidence.

If you want to improve your energy and your confidence, then focus on what you control.

Don’t fall into the No-Confidence Trap. If you’re asking yourself, “Why try?”, it’s because you’re focusing on the outcomes instead of what you can control.

Don’t focus on outcomes.

Focus on your actions.

Sioux Indian Story

“My grandfather took me to the fish pond on the farm when I was about seven, and he told me to throw a stone into the water. He told me to watch the circles created by the stone.Then he asked me to think of myself as that stone person. “You may create lots of splashes in your life but the waves that come from those splashes will disturb the peace of all your fellow creatures,” he said. “Remember that you are responsible for what you put in your circle and that circle will also touch many other circles. You will need to live in a way that allows the good that comes from your circle to send the peace of that goodness to others. The splash that comes from anger or jealousy will send those feelings to other circles. You are responsible for both.” That was the first time I realized each person creates the inner peace or discord that flows out into the world. We cannot create world peace if we are riddled with inner conflict, hatred, doubt, or anger. We radiate the feelings and thoughts that we hold inside, whether we speak them or not. Whatever is splashing around inside of us is spilling out into the world, creating beauty or discord with all other circles of life. – Unknown 

May Mantra

I didn’t have the time

But I made time

I didn’t have the knowledge

But I did what I knew

I didn’t have the support

But I learnt to support myself

I didn’t have the confidence

But the confidence came with results

I had alot going against me

But I had enough going for me

I had plenty of excuses

But I chose not to use any of them

6 Things Employers Say Will Get You Promoted

Everyone wants to get promoted. A promotion usually means you get a salary increase as well as additional benefits.

However, getting a promotion is not that easy and you need to put in a lot of work into it. In this article, see some of the things employers say doing will get you a promotion.

1. Tell your boss when they are wrong

Don’t be afraid to tell your boss when they are wrong or when you think that their idea won’t work.

This is not to say that you should argue with your boss all the time but you also shouldn’t be afraid to contradict them at times.

The trick here is in how you deliver the message. Just saying ‘you’re wrong’ won’t work. You need to come up with a professional way of saying it in order for them to listen. Have your facts straight and be ready to explain why you think their idea won’t work.

2. Be drama-free

If you are known to cause drama in the office, the chances of you getting a promotion are very low.

No employer wants to risk promoting someone who is always arguing with their colleagues, this means that even if you don’t like the person sitting next to you; it shouldn’t affect your work.

As a professional, you will have to work with people from different backgrounds with different personalities, so you need to learn how to deal with it in order to avoid workplace conflict.

You also need to cut down on the gossiping because most employers view this as a problem and are less willing to promote the office gossip.

3. Love your job

Your employer would like to believe that you like your job this is because when you like what you do you are more likely to do it well.

This means that even though you don’t necessarily love your job, your boss or colleagues don’t have to know. If your boss sees that you actually enjoy what you do, then they will be more likely to offer you a promotion.

However, if they feel like you don’t enjoy your job and would quit if something better came along, you most likely won’t get a promotion.

4. Never skip office functions

If you work for a big organization, it is likely that you never have enough time to actually speak to your boss. However, office events give you this opportunity.

Take this chance to actually socialize with your colleagues and supervisors this will ensure that they actually know of you.

Take for example; when a promotion comes up, who do you think is more likely to get it, the person who the bosses know by name or someone they can barely recognize?

5. Don’t expect to be rewarded

Promotions are not just given; they have to be earned. Your boss will not give you a promotion just because you have been working there the longest; you need to prove that you actually deserve it.

You need to let your work speak for you, what have you managed to achieve, how have you benefited the company?

If you are worried that your boss is not seeing your work, then you can always set up a meeting with them to talk about the work you have been doing as you ask for feedback.

6. Be solution oriented

A good employee won’t only bring up the problems but they will also offer solutions to these problems. Your boss will appreciate you more if you offered solutions to whatever problems come up.

If you brand yourself as a problem solver, you will greatly increase your chances of getting a promotion because your boss will be looking to keep you around as well as put you in a role where you will be able to help the company more.

In conclusion,

Promotions won’t just land in your lap; it is something that you must actively work towards getting. So if you want to achieve career growth, you need to start doing the things listed above.

 

My friends you are like Angels.

 

 

My friends you are like Angels.
I can count on you to be there,
To give support through all my
Joys and also through my despair.
Every time I turn on my computer
You are the Angels who are waiting,
No matter how far the distance, to tell me
“Hello” and to wish me a “Happy Day.”

I can’t wait each day to tell you
All about life’s good events that
Have been happening to me because,
I know you will be happy for me.

You are the Angels who are so
Near in spirit as your heart hold my
Hand in your loving thoughts,
To help get me through my bad days.

You seem to know when something
May be going wrong in my life because,
I will find something in my email
That tells me just how much you care.

I thank God everyday for my Angels
And I’ll ask Him to let me know
Just when you need someone to send
You a word of encouragement too.

God bless each one of you loving souls,
“My Dear Internet Friends,”
Because you are one of those Angels
Whose friendship I will forever treasure.

The Secret To Mastering New Skills

1. Start with your goal. What are you trying to achieve: to be the best in the world, or something else? Without knowing where you want to get to, you cannot plan.

2. Work backwards from your goal, what do you need to do to get there? Eliminate things from your training that are unnecessary for meeting your goal.

3. Break up your plan into smaller steps. Set yourself deadlines. This way you will know if you are starting to fall behind or have plateaued.

4. Ask for feedback from someone experienced, or film yourself at your task. If you want to be a good public speaker, film yourself presenting and compare it to other videos of speakers.

5. If you plateau you might need to work backwards. What do other people do that you do not? Getting worse before you get better is a real possibility.

3 Stories Leaders Need to Tell

Stories are timeless

“A storyteller makes up things to help other people; a liar makes up things to help himself.” — Daniel Wallace

As a leader, you need to tell 3 stories:

  1. your personal story,
  2. a group story, and
  3. the dream story.

Your personal story communicates your beliefs and values.

The group story helps create a shared sense of destiny.

The dream story inspires people to a better future.

Use Stories to Inspire Yourself and Others

Whether you’re a leader of a small team or large group, have these stories under your belt.  If you lead a family, you can use the 3 stories too.

If you just need to lead yourself, then have a personal story and dream story to remind yourself who you are and to inspire yourself to where you want to be.

Story #1 – Your Personal Story

The first story you need to tell is your personal story.

“As a leader there are three types of stories that you have to tell.  The first is your personal story. 

To be credible, you have to express yourself genuinely and communicate your beliefs and values in ways that distinctly represent who you are. 

This is not about wearing your heart on your sleeve, but about describing what makes you tick and what values drive you as a person.  For example, if you value diversity and innovation, then ensure you create an environment where people’s views are respected and taken seriously and where mistakes can be made without retribution.  Likewise, if you value collaboration and teamwork, then ensure you’re a team player by consulting widely among your people.”

Story #2 – The Group Story

The second story you need to tell is about the identity for your group.

“The second story you have to tell is the group or collective story.  This provides some sense of collective identity with which the group can identify. 

Leadership is not about imposing your individual dream, it’s about developing a shared sense of destiny.  It’s about enabling each person to develop a sense of belonging to the group. 

You do this by helping each individual to understand both his or her unique contribution and the distinctive contribution of others.  In other words, adopt a ‘you need me and I need you’ approach.”

Story #3 – The Dream Story

The third story you need to tell is about your dream.

“Once the first two stories are communicated clearly, the real power of your leadership will exist – as it always has – in telling the third story: the destiny or dream story. 

In this story you provide a description of why the group must change, where it is going and how it will get there.  The destiny or dream story provides people with dreams that touch, excite and arouse them — something that ultimately gives them a chance to live out part of their hopes and aspirations.”

Key Take Aways

  • Use stories to help people think, feel and act.   Stories help to share the emotions and context beyond dry facts.  People can connect with stories at a deeper level.  People can also tell and retell stories to spread the message in a simple and effective way.
  • Tell your personal story.   This is the story where you share what you care about and what makes you tick.
  • Tell the group story.  This is the story where you create an identify for the group.
  • Tell the dream story.  This is the story where you paint a picture of the future.

Stories are a great way to share and inspire.

Everybody likes a good story.

The trick is to make the stories relevant and connect at the values, hopes, and dreams.

"in pursuit of GREATNESS"

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