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Your network is your net worth!

There is something in life called “Social Capital”. The people you know; the people who know you and how they know you. What’s social capital? Listen to this,

Quite unfortunately, people think or behave like social capital is only needed on weddings and burials. That is why you see someone will not have contacted you in ten years but out of the blue they are sending you a message, “Hello so and so, long time, next Sunday is my pre-wedding. Or my uncle is dead please I need your support!”

Social capital is not built overnight; it is reciprocal and does not need money (especially in this virtually connected world) to build. It just needs being sensitive that people have emotions and that you can’t sneak into their lives only when you need help.

Social capital is massively important and when built and used correctly, it can make a very big difference to one’s quality of life. It can save you money, make you money, get you a better job, make things easier and safer, it can save you from prison, or save your life: it can save your time and effort, and make life more enjoyable and productive.

As we progress through the year, please learn to connect with people in your circles and not only Christ. Check on people, send someone a birthday message, check their timelines and comment something positive and inspirational. Pick your phone and call someone, or text them. It could be your relative, your colleague, your former schoolmate, a former or current boss, your CEO, your parents etc.

Creating a connection with people is important for building your social capital. And even if they don’t respond, at least keep in touch and don’t just reach out when you are in need. Even some on whatsapp don’t comment on any issue you put across they just read and keep quiet but that should not deter you. Continue communicating.

Most importantly, respect everyone no matter their status in life and be there when others need you. Be a solution, an encouragement and inspiration. Avoid being a leech, a user or nagger. Just be a nice person who in a calculated way stays in touch with people and brings joy, encouragement and hope.

The most important asset you have in life is not your job, money or title; its people. Your network is your net worth”

Motivational Quotes

Let’s start this list off right, with the top 10 best motivational quotes:

  1. “Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.” – William B. Sprague
  2. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” — Howard Thurman
  3. “I get knocked down. But I get up again. You’re never going to keep me down.” – Chumbawamba
  4. “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” — Winston Churchill
  5. “Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.” — Mary Shelley
  6. “There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.” — Tony Robbins
  7. “Time is the coin of life. Only you can determine how it will be spent.” — Carl Sandburg
  8. “To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  9. “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” — Bruce Lee
  10. “When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.” — Henry David Thoreau

Getting Started

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What do motivational quotes teach us about getting started?

Just start.

 

“Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”
— John R. Wooden

“Just do it.”
— Nike

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”
— Arthur Ashe

“The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”
— Mark Twain

“The wise does at once what the fool does at last.”
—  Baltasar Gracian

“What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.”
— Ralph Marston

“You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do.”
— Henry Ford

Action

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What do motivation quotes teach us about action?

Do more of it.

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”
— William James

“Do something wonderful, people may imitate it.”
— Albert Schweitzer

“Either you run the day or the day runs you.”
— Jim Rohn

“Experience is the child of thought, and thought is the child of action.”
— Benjamin Disraeli

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.”
— Anne Frank

“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost. That is where they should be. Now put the foundation under them.”
— Henry David Thoreau

“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.”
 Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned.”
— Peter Marshall

“Step by step and the thing is done.”
— Charles Atlas

“The more we do the more we can do.”
— William Hazlitt

“Time is the coin of life. Only you can determine how it will be spent.”
— Carl Sandburg

“To talk goodness is not good… only to do it is.”
— Chinese proverb

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.”
— Will Durant

“Well done is better than well said.”
— Benjamin Franklin

“Words are plentiful; deeds are precious.”
– – Lech Walesa

“Work spares us from three evils: boredom, vice, and need.”
— Voltaire

Attitude

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What do motivation quotes teach us about attitude?

Express the best of you.

 

“A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything, and the value of nothing.”
— Oscar Wilde

“A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change.”
– – Earl Nightingale

“Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.”
— Lou Holtz

“Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.”
– – Charles Swindoll

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
— Wayne Dyer

“Character is the result of two things: mental attitude and the way we spend our time.”
– – Elbert Green Hubbard

“Don’t take yourself too seriously. And don’t be too serious about not taking yourself too seriously.”
– – Howard Ogden

“Eagles come in all shapes and sizes, but you will recognize them chiefly by their attitudes.”
– – Charles Prestwich Scott

“Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.”
— Martin Luther King Jr.

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
– – Victor E. Frankl

“Funny is an attitude.”
— Flip Wilson

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”
— Maya Angelou

“It is not the position, but the disposition.”
 J. E. Dinger

“Mental attitude is more important than mental capacity.”
— Walter Dill Scott

“Minds are like parachutes – they only function when open.”
– – Thomas Dewar

“Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us.”
— Earl Nightingale

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in making new landscapes but in having new eyes.”
— Marcel Proust

“You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.”
— Plato

Boldness

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What do motivation quotes teach us about boldness?

Go for it and don’t hold back.

“Aim for the moon. If you miss, you may hit a star.”
— W. Clement Stone

“Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.”
— William James

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”
— Theodore Roosevelt

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day, saying, “I will try again tomorrow.”
— Mary Anne Radmacher

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”
— George Adair

“Fortune favors the brave.”
– – Publius Terence

“Fortune sides with him who dares.”
— Virgil

“Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.”
— Wayne Dyer

“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.”
— Albert Einstein

“He who hesitates is lost.”
– – Proverb

“If you can dream it, you can do it.”
— Walt Disney

“Leap, and the net will appear.”
— John Burroughs

“Opportunities don’t happen, you create them.”
— Chris Grosser

“Take calculated risks. That is quite different from being rash.”
— George S. Patton

“We are still masters of our fate.  We are still captains of our souls.”
— Winston Churchill

“When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.”
– –Henry David Thoreau

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
— Wayne Gretzky

Challenge and Change

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What do motivation quotes teach us about challenge and change?

Make the most of it.

“Change is not merely necessary to life – it is life.”
— Alvin Toffler

“Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.”
— Alfred A. Montapert

“Kites rise highest against the wind; not with it.”
— Winston Churchill

“Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.”
– – Samuel Johnson

“Only I can change my life. No one else can do it for me.”
— Carol Burnett

“The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity.”
— Winston Churchill

“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.”
— George Bernard Shaw

Determination and Persistence

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What do motivation quotes teach us about determination and effort?

That’s what it takes to succeed.

“Always look at what you have left.  Never look at what you have lost.”
— Robert H. Schuller

“Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.”
— Thomas Jefferson

“Don’t watch the clock; do what it does. Keep going.”
— Sam Levenson

“Either I will find a way, or I will make one.”
— Philip Sidney

“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”
— Samuel Beckett

“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.”
— Og Mandino

“I’ve failed over and over and over again. And that is why I succeed.”
— Michael Jordan

“If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.”
— H. G. Wells

“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.”
— Confucius

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.”
— Jim Ryun

“Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
— Harriet Beecher Stowe

“Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.”
— Mary Shelley

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.”
— Confucius

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”
— Thomas A. Edison

“Pursue one great decisive aim with force and determination.”
— Carl von Clausewitz

“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.”
— Robert Collier

“The best way out is always through.”
— Robert Frost

“You just can’t beat the person who never gives up.”
— Babe Ruth

“Your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.”
— Abraham Lincoln

Greatness

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What do motivation quotes teach us about greatness?

Don’t set limits.  Act in limitless ways.

“Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.”
— Og Mandino

“Don’t put a limit on what can be accomplished.”
– – Christopher Reeve

“I’d rather attempt to do something great and fail, than to attempt nothing and succeed.”
— Robert H. Schuller

“It’s great to be great, but its greater to be human.”
— Will Rogers

“Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.”
— Theodore Roosevelt

“The first key to greatness is to be in reality what we appear to be.”
— Socrates

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.”
— William James

“The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible.”
— Arthur C. Clarke

“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.”
— Confucius

“To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are.”
– – Muhammad Ali

“Try not to be a person of success, but rather a person of virtue.”
 Albert Einstein

“You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”
— Albert Einstein

Optimism

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What do motivation quotes teach us about optimism?

Look for the bright side until you find one.

“A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.”
— Herm Albright

“Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.”
– – Hans Selye

“An optimist is a person who sees a green light everywhere. The pessimist sees only the red light. But the truly wise person is color blind.”
— Dr. Albert Schweitzer

“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow.”
– – Helen Adams Keller

“Optimism means expecting the best, but confidence means knowing how to handle the worst. Never make a move if you are merely optimistic.”
— The Zurich Axioms

“The best way to cheer yourself up: Cheer everybody else up.”
— Mark Twain

“The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.”
— Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

“Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.”
— John Wooden

“To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.”
 Ralph Waldo Emerson

Anonymous on Motivation

What does “anonymous” or “unknown” teach us through their motivational quotes?

We help motivate our self and others through our attitude.

 

“Sometimes we are limited more by attitude than by opportunities.”
— Anonymous

“A healthy attitude is contagious but don’t wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier.”
— Anonymous

“Although fate presents the circumstances, how you react depends on your character.”
— Anonymous

“Attitude determines altitude.”
— Anonymous

“Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.”
– – Anonymous

“Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?”
— Anonymous

“People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.”
— Anonymous

Brian Tracy on Motivation

What does Brian Tracy teach us about motivation through his motivation quotes?

We shape our motivation through our thoughts and actions.

 

“Your attitude is an expression of your values,beliefs and expectations.”
— Brain Tracy

“Optimism is the one quality more associated with success and happiness than any other.”
— Brain Tracy

“If you did not care at all what anyone else thought about you, what would you do differently or change in your life?”
— Brain Tracy

“Make a game of finding something positive in every situation.Ninety-five percent of your emotions are determined by how you interpret events to yourself.”
— Brain Tracy

“Whatever is expressed is impressed. Whatever you say to yourself, with emotion, generates thoughts, ideas and behaviors consistent with those words.”
— Brain Tracy

Bruce Lee on Motivation

What does Bruce Lee teach us about motivation through his motivational quotes?

Live with zest and be your best.

 

“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.”
— Bruce Lee

“As you think, so shall you become.”
— Bruce Lee

“Ever since I was a child I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential.”
— Bruce Lee

“A goal is not always meant to be reached, it often serves simply as something to aim at.”
— Bruce Lee

“All fixed set patterns are incapable of adaptability or pliability. The truth is outside of all fixed patterns.”
— Bruce Lee

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”
— Bruce Lee

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
— Bruce Lee

“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”
— Bruce Lee

“If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.”
— Bruce Lee

“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”
— Bruce Lee

“It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.”
— Bruce Lee

“Knowledge will give you power, but character respect.”
– – Bruce Lee

“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.”
– – Bruce Lee

“Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.”
— Bruce Lee

“Real living is living for others.”
— Bruce Lee

“Take things as they are. Punch when you have to punch. Kick when you have to kick.”
– – Bruce Lee

“The less effort, the faster and more powerful you will be.”
— Bruce Lee

Jim Rohn on Motivation

What does Jim Rohn teach us about motivation through his motivation quotes?

Start your motivation from the inside out.

 

“Happiness is not by chance, but by choice.”
— Jim Rohn

“Humans have the remarkable ability to get exactly what they must have. But there is a difference between a ‘must’ and ‘want.’”
— Jim Rohn

“Motivation alone is not enough.If you have an idiot and you motivate him,now you have a motivated idiot.”
— Jim Rohn

“My suggestion would be to walk away from the 90% who don’t and join the 10% who do.”
— Jim Rohn

“The best motivating is self-motivating.The guy says,”I wish someone would come by and turn me on.”What if they don’t show up?You’ve got to have a better plan for your life.”
— Jim Rohn

“When you know what you want,and you want it badly enough,you’ll find a way to get it.”
— Jim Rohn

“Without a sense of urgency, desire loses its value.”
– – Jim Rohn

Ralph Waldo Emerson on Motivation

What does Ralph Waldo Emerson teach us about motivation from this motivation quotes?

Get out of the way of your own greatness.

 

“Do the thing we fear, and death of fear is certain.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A chief event of life is the day in which we have encountered a mind that startled us.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A good indignation brings out all one’s powers.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A great part of courage is the courage of having done the thing before.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A man is what he thinks about all day long.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A man’s growth is seen in the successive choirs of his friends.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Always do what you are afraid to do.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“As long as a man stands in his own way, everything seems to be in his way.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“As a cure for worrying, work is better than whiskey.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“As soon as there is life there is danger.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Beauty without expression is boring.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Before we acquire great power we must acquire wisdom to use it well.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Build a better mousetrap and the world will beat a path to your door.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live as well as think.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Each age, it is found, must write its own books; or rather, each generation for the next succeeding.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it nothing great ever achieved.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Ever artist was first an amateur.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

Tony Robbins on Motivation

What does Tony Robbins teach us about motivation through his motivation quotes?

Do what makes your heart sing.

 

“Live with passion.”
— Tony Robbins

“Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.”
— Tony Robbins

“It not knowing what to do, it’s doing what you know.”
— Tony Robbins

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.”
— Tony Robbins

“Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”
– – Tony Robbins

“There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.”
– – Tony Robbins

“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
– – Tony Robbins

Zig Ziglar on Motivation

What does Zig Ziglar teach us about motivation through his motivation quotes?

Focus on the positive, and you’ll catch more flies with honey, than with vinegar.

“Of all the ‘attitudes’ we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life-changing.”
— Zig Ziglar

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”
— Zig Ziglar

“Positive thinking won’t let you do anything but it will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.”
– – Zig Ziglar

“To respond is positive, to react is negative.”
– – Zig Ziglar

“When you choose to be pleasant and positive in the way you treat others, you have also chosen, in most cases,how you are going to be treated by others.”
– – Zig Ziglar

“You can disagree without being disagreeable.”
— Zig Ziglar

“I’ve go to say ‘no’ to the good to say ‘yes’ to the best.”
– – Zig Ziglar

“You cannot tailor make the situations in life, but you can tailor make the attitudes to fit those situations before they arise.”
— Zig Ziglar

MATURITY IS THE ABILITY TO DELAY GRATIFICATION

 

My mother graduated in 1965 &
got a teaching job at a Government
College

The teachers were given car loans
& she bought a brand new Opel
Kadett.

They were to pay back the loan
over 4 years.

However, one of the teachers took
half of the money the others took
as loan…
Bought a fairly used car & got a driver.

So, when other teachers would drive to
school & park their brand new cars, his
driver would drop him off in the
morning & come and pick him at knocking off time.

My mum said they laughed at him,
calling him “Acting Big Man” because
he got a driver…
But he’d just smile.
One day, one of the teachers had cause
to go out of the school during school
hours. He returned to report that he
saw his colleague’s driver using his car
as *taxi*

When they “reported” his driver to
him, he said he was aware that was
why he hired a driver…

Why park a car for 6-8 hours, when it
can be making money for you?
The other teachers were stunned:
suddenly, he didn’t look as stupid as
they thought!
Now, because of the extra income from
using his car as a taxi, he was able to
pay back the loan in a year…

By the 2nd year, he bought a 2nd car to
add to his taxi fleet.
By the 3rd year, he bought 2 more
taxis!

By the 4th year when my mum & others
finished paying their loans, this guy had 6 taxis.

Then he bought a brand new Opel
Kadett, the newer model!
Other cars were 4 years old…
My mum said, that was the moment
they realised who was smart & who was
foolish among them all.

This happened 1965-1970.
I was born 1968, in the midst of all this.

I was told that story in 1979 when I
entered secondary school

It has remained in my brains since then…

Today, I see too many young folks more
interested in *spending* their money instead of *investing* it they
don’t have to buy the things they don’t
need to impress people who don’t like
them.

Too many people living fake lives in
these days of social media.

The fake generation buy fake hair, fake nails , list is long – fake almost everything.

I’ve seen people pose by cars they don’t
own to take pictures & post on social
media.
Young people don’t seem to understand
discretion: the competition to out do
each other in the “I’ve arrived” ranking
is just too much.
My niece, an undergraduate asked me
to buy her a phone…
I asked what type does she want: she
mentioned a type, I checked the price:
$200 US

Now, I use an Infinix Hot 5 worth maybe $50US or less
thereabout, it was even a gift by one
of my site contractors.
But this 20 year old girl wants to use a
$200 US phone!
Something is definitely wrong
somewhere…!

Seriously, we can’t continue like this.

My generation is halfway out.
I am sorry for the younger generation,
those aged 16-30. I honestly don’t know
what this world would be like when
they are in their 50s & 60s.
May God’s mercy prevail upon them,
may He give them sense.
Amen.

Let me add:
Mike Murdock says,
“A foolish man will enjoy a perfect
today & lose a perfect tomorrow.
A wise man will forfeit a perfect today
to gain a perfect tomorrow.”

Every young person needs to
understand this!

Manhood Is Not Natural

Manhood is not natural, but it is essential. No society can endure if it does not harness male sexual energy and teach men to take care of the children they father and the women who bear them.

Few would disagree that manhood is in crisis today. Men are falling behind women in important measures of personal and social well-being. In deeply consequential ways, they have become the weaker sex.

Some women celebrate this. Most, however, are deeply concerned, especially since the weakness of the men in their lives makes it increasingly difficult for them to become wives and mothers. The equation is really quite simple: if boys don’t become good, dependable men, they can’t become good, dependable husbands and fathers.

The majority of women want marriage and babies, and usually quite dearly. They don’t need to be talked into them and never really have. Ask women today their biggest obstacle to achieving this goal. It’s not a shortage of males, but of responsible adult males. Men. If they cannot find marriageable men, they often go with other choices. It’s no coincidence that the two fastest growing family formation trends are unmarried cohabitation and out-of-wedlock childbearing among twenty- and thirty-something women.

The causes of these trends can be found in the underappreciated and often-denied distinct natures of manhood and womanhood. It’s rooted in a strange but essential anthropological truth: Womanhood is natural. Manhood is not.

Womanhood Is Natural

Womanhood is a natural phenomenon. A female’s biological make-up usually ensures that she will grow into a healthy woman. Leave her to herself, and it’s likely to happen. It’s why the phrases “woman up,” “be a woman,” or “make a woman out of her” don’t exist.

As her body matures, internally and externally, it sends her and those around her an unmistakable message about what she is and what she’s becoming. It moves her inexorably in that direction with a force as great as it is mysterious. Few girls miss these cues. It’s not just her body that is changing; she is becoming a different person. Her family and community treat her differently because of it. A father shudders at it, as it forever changes the way he interacts with “his little girl.” He must bow to and honor it. I’m the father of a girl. I know it all too well.

Women must be taught, with great political and ideological pressure, to ignore their womanhood and abandon their children, for doing so is contrary to all nature.

Manhood Is Taught

The opposite is true of manhood.  Unlike a woman, a man has no civilized role or agenda inscribed in his body. The boy has no on-board GPS directing him toward his future. His transition into manhood can only come into being with significant, intentional work by other men. As a behavior, manhood must be learned, proven, and earned. As an identity, manhood must be bestowed by a boy’s father and the community’s larger fraternity of men. His mother can only affirm it. She cannot bequeath it.

Maleness just happens, but manhood does not. The first is a biological event, while the second is a developed character quality. When manhood is not formed and cultivated, males fail to mature, resulting in the “perpetual adolescence” or “failure to launch” that plagues our culture. When so many men play beer pong into their forties, live in their parents’ basements, play videogames twelve hours a day, and encounter women only in the form of pixels on a porn site, it seems clear that we have a manhood problem.

The human male nature doesn’t naturally go in the direction civilization requires; it requires the direction of other men. Unlike the female nature, which tends to exist reliably among the median scale of human behavior, the male nature is oriented more toward extremes, for good or bad.

Manhood must be crafted and refined in order to orient males in pro-social, communitarian directions. In fact, this is the first work of every civilization. Anthropologists tell us that the original and most fundamental social problem of any culture is the unattached male. Left to his own, he is not inclined to play well with others. He is not disposed to make himself, or anyone around him, a better person. He is not likely to become other-focused. Either fiercely competitive or indolent, he is more likely to become a social contagion. He will either seek to define himself in the community by power, false confidence, and selfish conquest, or shrink away toward inactivity and reticence.

In every known human society, everywhere in the world, the young male learns that when he grows up, one of the things which he must do in order to be a full member of society is to provide food [and protection] for some female and her young. … every known human society rests firmly on the learned nurturing behaviour of men.

Thus, across virtually all cultures, manhood has largely consisted of three essential qualities: procreation, provision, and protection. If the boy doesn’t learn these things, then he is not likely to become a good, selfless, serving man. Shame and derision from the community will become his lot.

Tragically, manhood is becoming extinct because we are not teaching it.

Male vs. Female Sexuality

Additionally, the most elemental destabilizing force in every culture is not merely unrefined male energy, but his unchecked sexual energy. Full stop. In its fundamental essence, it is deeply anti-social. It has no civilizing, pro-social nature in itself. To become so, it must be acted upon by other forces. By contrast, female sexual energy tends to be inherently pro-social. Female sexuality has the power to create human civilization by moderating the behavior of men, but it can only do this when there is social appreciation for these differences in male and female sexuality, coupled with the strong social morals they require.

Of course, the flip side of unmoderated male energy goes beyond sexuality. A female’s naturally domesticating influence on overall male energy and behavior is easily demonstrated. Who pays substantially lower auto, health, and life insurance premiums, married men or their single peers? Service to the god of equality requires there be no difference here. But we all know better. The wedding-ring-clad man enjoys the financial benefit, and not because insurance companies have a sentimental heart for weddings. Every insurance company knows married men direct their male wanderlust and energy toward safety and responsibility. Single men, not so much.

Without the essential tempering influence of female sexuality, male sexuality is a whole other animal, and not a pretty one.

Sex Makes Babies

This is a problem, because sex makes babies. Every society must give greater attention to this fact than it does to the need for food, shelter, and protection from outside attack. These and all other vital needs are either enhanced or crippled by what a community expects of the relationship between a man, the children he sires, and the woman he does so with. If it doesn’t get this right, few other good things the community needs are likely.

Of course, the male’s attitude and approach toward his procreative act is drastically different from hers. His necessary participation in the act is solely orgasmic, lasting seconds, and is all pleasure. He is not naturally connected to the potential of that act. The mother’s connection, however, is profound, starting shortly after conception and intensifying daily. It costs her dearly in energy, sleep, and overall comfort, starting long before the pain of childbirth. She is inescapably invested. He is not.

The crucial process of civilization is the subordination of male sexual impulses and biology to the long-term horizons of female sexuality . . . It is male behavior that must be changed to create a civilized order. The crucial process of civilization. No society can develop or endure without succeeding at this.

Manhood, Marriage, and Fatherhood

The woman is not only the stabilizing force of male sexuality; she is the authorizing factor in fatherhood. If a particular man desires to be involved in the life of his child, it is the child’s mother, and she alone, who determines whether and how he may do this. She typically desires to make this relationship public by making the father of the child her husband. Anthropologists have called this the legitimization of the child.

Consider the etymology of two key words: matrimony and husband. The first comes from the Latin, matrimonium, meaning literally “obligation to the mother.” Since it is virtually impossible for a mother and her child to thrive by themselves, marriage arose in nearly every civilization throughout time as a way to have the impregnating male take responsibility for his child and the mother. The surrounding community expects the male to fulfill his obligation so it doesn’t have to. It is why marriage is a deeply public act and no society has found a way to function without it.

Thus, the good man steps up, and in doing so, becomes a husband. This stems from the Old Norse, meaning literally house dweller: hús (“house”) bóndi (“dweller” and “bonded serf” or “slave”). The husband settles down and confines himself to a particular household, serving and providing resources for its inhabitants. He becomes a whole other kind of man, taking full responsible for his sexuality and his part in the coming generation.

What Happens When Manhood Isn’t Taught?

It is then certainly no coincidence that the term “feminization of poverty” was coined as the sexual revolution initiated the great divorce between sex, babies, and marriage.  While large opportunities were opening for women due to greater equality, Poverty is rapidly becoming a female problem. She blamed the significant increase in the number of female-headed families.

Ghettos are not created by city planners, crime by the police, or failing health by big pharma. Each of these social ills arises by inattention to the sexual behaviors of males. If he doesn’t have to marry before having sex (and potentially fathering children), the average man won’t. So he hasn’t. The feminization of poverty and the accompanying declines in female happiness and childhood well-being are the tragic results.

Manhood ideologies always include a criterion of selfless generosity, even to the point of sacrifice. Again and again, we find that “real” men are those who give more than they take away; they serve others. Real men are generous, even to a fault. Non-men are often those stigmatized as stingy and unproductive.

A good man is the fountain, not the drain. The formation of such men is the first task of human civilization, and its largest threat when ignored.

The question is, how can we recover manhood today? We must find the answer. For it is not only the fate of men that is at stake, but the fate of our women, children, and society as well.

Who Are You Walking With?

Its not important how we spend our time,

but with whom we spend it.

The only thing that’s keeping some people from a new level of their destiny is wrong friendships.

You may have to prune off some relationships that are not adding value to your life.

Don’t hang around people who are not going anywhere, who have no goals or dreams, who comprise and take the easy way out.

If you tolerate mediocrity, it will rub off on you.

If you hand out with jealous, critical, unhappy people, you will end up jealous, critical and unhappy.

You cannot become who God created you to be hanging out with them.

Take a look at your friends. If your friends are winners, leaders, givers and successful, if they have integrity and a spirit of excellence and are positive and motivated, those good qualities are going to rub off on you. Invest your time with them.  They’re making you better.

Food for Thought

 

One who loves till her eyes close, is a Mother.
One who loves without an expression in the eyes, is a Father.
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Mother – Introduces you to the world.
Father – Introduces the world to you.
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Mother : Gives you life
Father : Gives you living
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Mother : Makes sure you are not starving.
Father : Makes sure you know the value of starving
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Mother : Personifies Care
Father: Personifies Responsibility
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Mother : Protects you from a fall
Father : Teaches you to get up from a fall.
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Mother : Teaches you walking.
Father : Teaches you walk of life
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Mother : Teaches from her own experiences.
Father : Teaches you to learn from your own experiences.
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Mother : Reflects Ideology
Father : Reflects Reality
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Mother’s love is known to you since birth.
Father’s love is known when you become a Father or mother
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Dedicated to Parents!

25 habits that will help you thrive during season of the corona virus epidemic:

1. Set SMART goals.

Success requires dedicated work. Write your goals and map out the key steps they must take to get closer to their goals every day.

2. They manage their time.

Time is precious and valuable. Successful managers manage their time effectively by cutting out activities that do not align with their goals.

3. They invest in others.

Successful managers continually invest in others. Investing in others includes encouraging, coaching, mentoring, and sponsoring future leaders.

4. They communicate effectively.

Successful managers are good communicators. Effective communication requires attentive listening and asking questions. Good communicators also respond to questions when asked and they share information that will benefit others.

5. They focus on the big picture.

Successful managers engage in strategic planning and effective implementation. To do so, they broaden their perspective to understand how all the pieces of a plan, project or goal it together.

6. They invest in their professional and personal development.

The best managers understand the importance of investing in their professional and personal development. They read books, attend seminars, and / or seek advanced degrees. Continuing education enhances their credentials and allows them to stay on top of trends that will impact their areas of expertise.

7. They take risks.

Taking risks builds confidence and sharpens one’s ability to be decisive. Successful managers are willing to try new things and experiment with new ideas.

8. They have integrity.

Successful managers demonstrate consistency between their words and their actions. Their consistency inspires others to trust them and their ability to lead.

9. They are disciplined.

Self-discipline is an important leadership attribute. It requires engaging in consistent action even when you don’t feel like it. Self-discipline fuels a successful manager’s sense of determination and allows the manager to achieve goals.

10. They are strategic.

Strategic leadership requires thoughtful analysis, planning, and execution. Successful managers invest time to think through various scenarios and consider the consequences of potential actions.

11. They ask for feedback.

The founder of modern management, Peter Drucker, once wrote: “The only way to discover your strengths is through feedback analysis.” Successful managers continually seek feedback to improve their performance and enable continued success.

12. They seek advice.

Thriving managers seek advice to make effective decisions. Knowledgeable advice allows a leader to learn about blind spots. Receiving guidance enhances a manager’s leadership style by offering a different point of view.

13. They promote collaboration.

Successful management requires engaging others and inspiring them toward shared goals. Sharing information and inviting others to participate in collaboration builds trust within a team and a common sense of purpose.

14. They are visible.

Successful managers are visible and create visibility opportunities for their teams. Visibility facilitates connection points with others, spurs interaction, and provides a platform to showcase accomplishments.

15. They are respectful of others.

Trust and respect are fundamental to effective leadership. No one likes to be disrespected or denigrated. Successful managers are courteous and considerate of others. Genuine regard for others engenders loyalty and fosters mutual respect.

16. They promote their team’s accomplishments.

Everyone wants to be part of a winning team. Giving others credit and acknowledging their accomplishments are two ways that successful managers create high achieving teams. Promoting their team’s accomplishments encourages momentum for further achievement.

17. They build a network.

Good working relationships are important for career and personal advancement. Successful managers work at strategically building networks that support their personal and professional goals. They create regular opportunities to establish genuine connections with people in and out of their professional community.

18. They position themselves for the future.

In an ever-changing workplace that is increasingly being impacted by technology and global markets, positioning oneself for the future is critical for career and team success. Successful managers stay on top of industry trends by reading periodicals, attending conferences, and networking. They also seek opportunities to share what they learn with team members and incorporate new methods into their work processes.

19. They navigate office politics.

Successful managers embrace office politics. They understand that office politics is a fact of life. But, they also understand that navigating office politics does not require that they violate their personal values. Rather, they respect their organization’s culture, strategically build their network, and interact sincerely to influence others effectively.

20. They manage conflict.

Workplace conflict is inevitable. Rather than avoid conflict, successful managers seek to address difficult situations professionally and respectfully. They engage in difficult conversations, seek common ground, and preserve relationships.

21. They admit mistakes.

Making mistakes is part of life. Effective leadership calls for transparency and accountability. Successful managers, therefore, admit their mistakes, learn from them, and do better next time.

22. They are humble.

The best managers are humble. Many associate humility with weakness. But, in fact, humility is the ability to accurately assess one’s own strengths and limitations. It takes sober judgment and confidence to self-assess. Genuine humility is an attractive quality and inspires an environment of honesty and trust.

23. They strive for work-life balance.

Maintaining a high-performance work culture requires work-life balance. The best managers work to ensure that their teams stay engaged by encouraging time off and leading by example. All leaders need time to recharge. Taking time off to rest, connect with loved ones, and pursue personal interests puts work into perspective and makes managers more relatable as people.

24. They support their teams.

Managers cannot succeed without the support of their teams. The best managers empower their teams by allowing them to take ownership for their work. Successful managers provide their teams with the encouragement, tools, and resources they need to get their jobs done.

25. They say, “Thank you.”

In a performance driven workplace, expressing gratitude is often overlooked. Thanking others for their contributions let’s them know they are appreciated and valued. Saying “thank you” takes a few seconds of time. But, the impact can last a lifetime.

What you do not know is something that you can learn

A young teacher was teaching arithmetic to students in kindergarten. She was to teach them additions on a particular day. She wanted to make it a bit more interesting to the class of five-year-old students. So, she pulled out three apples from her bag. She called Mark from the last row and started telling him, “Mark, If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?”

Mark looked serious, counted on his fingers and responded confidently, “Four!”

The teacher was disappointed, and it was evident on her face because she thought she would get an effortless correct answer, which is three obviously. But not wanting to show her disappointment, she wanted to try asking the same question again. In her mind, she thought maybe Mark did not hear the question properly or was confused. So, she went on again, “Mark, listen to me very carefully, make no mistake.” Now this time she paced the question slowly so that Mark could get it right, “If I give you one apple and then one apple and then one more apple, how many apples will you have?” She went so slow, that she had no hesitation that she would get the right answer this time.

Mark very confidently responded, “Four!”

The teacher felt very let down. Now the class was giggling looking at the teacher’s reaction. This angered her but she was determined to get it right. So, she thought to herself, may be Mark does not like apples, let me try oranges. So, without losing her patience, she cajoled Mark and said, “Mark, let’s do it one last time. I suppose you like oranges, more right? So, If I give you one orange and then one orange and then one more orange, how many oranges will you have?”

Mark was not too sure why the teacher was making him do this again, but he saw the disappointment on her face, so he counted again on his fingers with a little lesser confidence responded, “Three!”

The teacher thumped the desk almost celebrating the answer. She was sure that Mark now got the logic right. She still wanted to prove the point so she knelt down to reach Mark and went ahead asking him “Very good Mark, now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?”

Mark saw the glow on her face and so with full confidence answered, “Four!”

The teacher was aghast. “How Mark, how?” She asked Mark in a very irritated tone

Mark by now was trembling but replied, “Because I already have one apple in my bag.”

Judge others when you are perfect: Very often we judge people for the choices they make or for the decisions they make. Very rarely, do we try and understand the options they had to pick from.

You don’t know what you don’t know until you know it: The foolish and the arrogant ones think they know it all, the smart and the bold ones, pretend they know it all. The experienced and the wise ones accept that they don’t know it all

There are always two sides to every story: When you have to take sides, remember every story has two sides. One side suits one party better and the other side, the other party. Choose the path of the truth before you decide, which side to take.

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10 THINGS EVERYBODY SHOULD DO IN 2020

1. Pursue something.
Don’t walk in the entire 365 days without having something particular in mind to achieve. Start an income generating project, if you don’t have one already.Just do something!
2. Walk with people wiser or stronger than you.
In 2020, surround yourself with people who will inspire you, who will make you feel you can do better, who will challenge you on.
3. Check your dressing or appearance.
Don’t put on ‘anything’ just because it covers your nakedness. Your appearance tells a lot about you. Iron your clothes neatly. Ladies don’t wear dresses in the name of fashion or trend . Wear more decent but fitting dresses. This is the slogan: Simple but Classy.
4. Check how you talk.
Before you open your mouth, be minded of who you are talking to, where you are talking, when you are talking and also know that your integrity is at stake. In every situation, choose silence over speech unless you don’t have any option.
5. Visitations
Visit old people’s home to appreciate them also orphanage and children in need of special care.  Don’t let them feel unwanted or neglected in the scheme of things.
6. In 2020, be more prayerful.
You can’t live your life thinking things occur merely logically. There’s a Supreme Being who makes things happen, pray to him.🙏
7.Be Resourceful
In 2020, start thinking or planning towards doing more for humanity.
8.Be Positive
In 2020, always think Positive while being Realistic. When you see tigers praying to God, don’t join them. You can be positive that they won’t ‘chop’ you since they are praying but be realistic too that after the prayers, they’ll remain tigers and God will feed them with flesh.
9. Show Gratitude
Buy gifts for your loved ones.    In 2020 try and do something ‘small’ for parents . You have no idea what  goes on in their minds  Let them feel you are not far off
10. Be Thrifty
In 2020, Invest more, save less, spend less. Put your money into investment ventures. Buy T-bills, buy shares, buy fixed deposits, import some goods and sell, be a stock broker, etc. In fact, get more than one stream of income!
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The point is, don’t work your life out. Many known names have gone and life goes on. You won’t take your work with you when you die. You are not as important as you think, calm down. Take time off work, go and do medical check-up, visit your family, visit gardens or the beach and appreciate nature and so on….
               *Happy new year*

Three Stories – Three Lessons

Story number One

An old man lived alone in Minnesota. He wanted to spade his potato garden,
but it was very hard work. His only son, who would have helped him, was in
prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and mentioned his situation:
Dear Son,
I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won’t be able to plant my potato
garden this year. I hate to miss doing the garden, because your mother always
loved planting time. I’m just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot. If
you were here, all my troubles would be over. I know you would dig the plot for
me, if you weren’t in prison.
Love, Dad
Shortly, the old man received this telegram: “For Heaven’s sake, Dad, don’t dig
up the garden!! That’s where I buried the GUNS!!”
At 4 a.m. the next morning, a dozen FBI agents and local police officers
showed up and dug up the entire garden without finding any guns.
Confused, the old man wrote another note to his son telling him what
happened, and asked him what to do next.
His son’s reply was: “Go ahead and plant your potatoes, Dad…………………. It’s the
best I could do for you from here.”
MORAL:
No matter where you are in the world, if you have decided to do something
deep from your heart, you can do it. It is the thought that matters and not
where you are or where the person is.

Story Number Two

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire.
He told his employer-contractor of his plans to leave the house-building business and live a
more leisurely life with his wife, enjoying his extended family. He would miss the paycheck,
but he needed to retire. They could get by.
The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could build just one more
house as a favor. The carpenter said yes, but in time it was easy to see that his heart was not
in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an
unfortunate way to end a dedicated career.
When the carpenter finished his work the employer came to inspect the house. He handed
the front-door key to the carpenter. “This is your house,” he said, “My gift to you!”
The carpenter was shocked! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own
house, he would have done it all so differently.
So it is with us. We build our lives, a day at a time, often putting less than our best into the
building.
Then with a shock we realize we have to live in the house we have built.
If we could do it over, we would do it much differently. But we cannot go back.
You are the carpenter. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. “Life is a
do-it-yourself project,” someone has said. Your attitudes and the choices you make today,
build the “house” you live in tomorrow.
Build wisely!

Story Number Three

Finish Strong is more than a statement, it’s an attitude.
It’s an attitude of believing you can do something and having the courage and
determination to see it through. And of course, you can apply this “finish
strong attitude” to your business or your life! here’s a personal story about
setting goals from the author, Dan Green……. Enjoy!
Keep Clip’n Along
By embracing the attitude to Finish Strong, I’ve created a personal level of
accountability that goes with me wherever I go. The first time I really
discovered the power of this mindset was early in my selling career. In the
early nineties I sold software systems to commercial banks. A great deal of my
selling efforts involved prospecting for leads over the phone. No matter how
good you are at selling over the phone, it can be challenging to push yourself
to make one more call – and a key to success in selling is “making one more
call”.
As a method of daily goal setting, I would start my day in the office by taking
out twenty five paper clips from my desktop paper clip holder. I would place
the paper clips on a coaster right next to the holder which was next to the
phone. Each time I engaged in a meaningful selling conversation I would take
one of the paper clips from the pile and put it back in the holder. I knew that
if I created twenty five selling conversations each day, that my ultimate sales
goals would be reached. I made a commitment not to leave the office until
every paper clip was put back.
There were many times that the day was over for everyone else and I had one
paperclip sitting on that coaster staring at me. In order to finish strong, I
needed to have one more selling conversation. I dialed until I succeeded. I
never left a paperclip sitting on the coaster and I never put one back that did
not earn it. The level of activity I created during this time stuffed my sales
pipeline with opportunities. My career took off and I tripled my income in
the course of two years – all because I chose to Finish Strong

As we count down to the last days of this year and look forward to the next , my wish for you is that you close the year finishing strong.

Never Back Down

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” — T.S. Elliot

You only get one chance at this life, so live it to the fullest. Don’t wast your time worrying about what anyone might say, or could possibly think about you-these are things you cannot control. If there is one guaranteed way to throw you life away it is to live it based on the potential of someone else’s disapproval. Do what you love, do what makes you happy, and never back down.

My Personal Philosophy

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.”

My personal philosophy is a work in progress, but mostly it comes down to I believe that everybody deserves a better chance at life, and that life is better with skill.

With that in mind, I have a simple set of guiding principles:

  1. Life’s not a spectator’s sport.
  2. Absorb what’s useful; reject the rest.
  3. It’s not what’s on your plate, it’s how you eat it.
  4. Don’t take life too seriously, or you’ll never get out alive.
  5. Success is a journey, not a destination.
  6. Live more, laugh more, learn more, love more.
  7. Roll with the punches.
  8. Whatever doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.
  9. If you fall down, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, carry the lessons forward.
  10. Don’t seek to be better than others; seek to be better than yourself.

Take a Risk

The world is waiting for you! Behind the masses of those that wish to watch you lead a quiet and sedentary life is an open, unlined canvas. I urge you to take a chance, to push past barriers of negativity and oppression of self fulfillment and paint the picture of who YOU want to be. Never let yourself be beat down for living your life by those too afraid to live their own. There is a difference between risking your life and taking a risk at having one. I know which side I would rather be on, do you?

The Honor Code

Honor is one of the key virtues that everyone should strive to possess.   In simple terms Honor refers to the quality of knowing and doing what is morally right.

Below are the 7 Core Behaviors for Honorable Leadership.

  1. Tell the truth, even when it is difficult – avoid duplicity and deceitful behavior.
  2. Treat others with dignity and respect – take the lead and show value to others.
  3. Keep your word and your commitments – ask for relief sooner than later if necessary.
  4. Be ethical – operate within the laws of the land, the guidelines of your profession and the policies of your employer.
  5. Act responsibly; do your duty and be accountable – own your mistakes and work to do better in the future.
  6. Be courageous – lean into the pain of your fears to do what you know is right even when it feels unnatural or uncomfortable.
  7. Live your values – be faithful to your spiritual core, your conscience and your deepest intuitions.

6 Things Employers Say Will Get You Promoted

Everyone wants to get promoted. A promotion usually means you get a salary increase as well as additional benefits.

However, getting a promotion is not that easy and you need to put in a lot of work into it. In this article, see some of the things employers say doing will get you a promotion.

1. Tell your boss when they are wrong

Don’t be afraid to tell your boss when they are wrong or when you think that their idea won’t work.

This is not to say that you should argue with your boss all the time but you also shouldn’t be afraid to contradict them at times.

The trick here is in how you deliver the message. Just saying ‘you’re wrong’ won’t work. You need to come up with a professional way of saying it in order for them to listen. Have your facts straight and be ready to explain why you think their idea won’t work.

2. Be drama-free

If you are known to cause drama in the office, the chances of you getting a promotion are very low.

No employer wants to risk promoting someone who is always arguing with their colleagues, this means that even if you don’t like the person sitting next to you; it shouldn’t affect your work.

As a professional, you will have to work with people from different backgrounds with different personalities, so you need to learn how to deal with it in order to avoid workplace conflict.

You also need to cut down on the gossiping because most employers view this as a problem and are less willing to promote the office gossip.

3. Love your job

Your employer would like to believe that you like your job this is because when you like what you do you are more likely to do it well.

This means that even though you don’t necessarily love your job, your boss or colleagues don’t have to know. If your boss sees that you actually enjoy what you do, then they will be more likely to offer you a promotion.

However, if they feel like you don’t enjoy your job and would quit if something better came along, you most likely won’t get a promotion.

4. Never skip office functions

If you work for a big organization, it is likely that you never have enough time to actually speak to your boss. However, office events give you this opportunity.

Take this chance to actually socialize with your colleagues and supervisors this will ensure that they actually know of you.

Take for example; when a promotion comes up, who do you think is more likely to get it, the person who the bosses know by name or someone they can barely recognize?

5. Don’t expect to be rewarded

Promotions are not just given; they have to be earned. Your boss will not give you a promotion just because you have been working there the longest; you need to prove that you actually deserve it.

You need to let your work speak for you, what have you managed to achieve, how have you benefited the company?

If you are worried that your boss is not seeing your work, then you can always set up a meeting with them to talk about the work you have been doing as you ask for feedback.

6. Be solution oriented

A good employee won’t only bring up the problems but they will also offer solutions to these problems. Your boss will appreciate you more if you offered solutions to whatever problems come up.

If you brand yourself as a problem solver, you will greatly increase your chances of getting a promotion because your boss will be looking to keep you around as well as put you in a role where you will be able to help the company more.

In conclusion,

Promotions won’t just land in your lap; it is something that you must actively work towards getting. So if you want to achieve career growth, you need to start doing the things listed above.

 

The Secret To Mastering New Skills

1. Start with your goal. What are you trying to achieve: to be the best in the world, or something else? Without knowing where you want to get to, you cannot plan.

2. Work backwards from your goal, what do you need to do to get there? Eliminate things from your training that are unnecessary for meeting your goal.

3. Break up your plan into smaller steps. Set yourself deadlines. This way you will know if you are starting to fall behind or have plateaued.

4. Ask for feedback from someone experienced, or film yourself at your task. If you want to be a good public speaker, film yourself presenting and compare it to other videos of speakers.

5. If you plateau you might need to work backwards. What do other people do that you do not? Getting worse before you get better is a real possibility.

3 Stories Leaders Need to Tell

Stories are timeless

“A storyteller makes up things to help other people; a liar makes up things to help himself.” — Daniel Wallace

As a leader, you need to tell 3 stories:

  1. your personal story,
  2. a group story, and
  3. the dream story.

Your personal story communicates your beliefs and values.

The group story helps create a shared sense of destiny.

The dream story inspires people to a better future.

Use Stories to Inspire Yourself and Others

Whether you’re a leader of a small team or large group, have these stories under your belt.  If you lead a family, you can use the 3 stories too.

If you just need to lead yourself, then have a personal story and dream story to remind yourself who you are and to inspire yourself to where you want to be.

Story #1 – Your Personal Story

The first story you need to tell is your personal story.

“As a leader there are three types of stories that you have to tell.  The first is your personal story. 

To be credible, you have to express yourself genuinely and communicate your beliefs and values in ways that distinctly represent who you are. 

This is not about wearing your heart on your sleeve, but about describing what makes you tick and what values drive you as a person.  For example, if you value diversity and innovation, then ensure you create an environment where people’s views are respected and taken seriously and where mistakes can be made without retribution.  Likewise, if you value collaboration and teamwork, then ensure you’re a team player by consulting widely among your people.”

Story #2 – The Group Story

The second story you need to tell is about the identity for your group.

“The second story you have to tell is the group or collective story.  This provides some sense of collective identity with which the group can identify. 

Leadership is not about imposing your individual dream, it’s about developing a shared sense of destiny.  It’s about enabling each person to develop a sense of belonging to the group. 

You do this by helping each individual to understand both his or her unique contribution and the distinctive contribution of others.  In other words, adopt a ‘you need me and I need you’ approach.”

Story #3 – The Dream Story

The third story you need to tell is about your dream.

“Once the first two stories are communicated clearly, the real power of your leadership will exist – as it always has – in telling the third story: the destiny or dream story. 

In this story you provide a description of why the group must change, where it is going and how it will get there.  The destiny or dream story provides people with dreams that touch, excite and arouse them — something that ultimately gives them a chance to live out part of their hopes and aspirations.”

Key Take Aways

  • Use stories to help people think, feel and act.   Stories help to share the emotions and context beyond dry facts.  People can connect with stories at a deeper level.  People can also tell and retell stories to spread the message in a simple and effective way.
  • Tell your personal story.   This is the story where you share what you care about and what makes you tick.
  • Tell the group story.  This is the story where you create an identify for the group.
  • Tell the dream story.  This is the story where you paint a picture of the future.

Stories are a great way to share and inspire.

Everybody likes a good story.

The trick is to make the stories relevant and connect at the values, hopes, and dreams.

What Starts Here Changes The World

Environment Champion!

My love for commencement speeches brought me to this insightful speech by a highly decorated Navy Admiral. I jotted down the nuggets that spoke to me and I hope they will have the same effect to you as well.

1. Make your bed in the morning when you wake up to perfection.
You will accomplish the first task of the day
It will give you a small sense of pride
It will encourage you to do another task and another and another
By the end of the day that one task completed will turn to many tasks completed
Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that little things in life matter.
If you can’t do the little things right, you will never be able to do the big things right
And if by chance you have a miserable day you will come home to a bed that is made – and a made bed gives you encouragement that tomorrow will be better
So if you want to change the world, start of by making your bed.

2. You can’t change the world alone, you will need some help. And to truly gain from your starting point to your destination takes friends, colleagues, the goodwill of strangers and a strong leader for guidance.
Nothing matters but your will to succeed. If you want to change the world, measure a person by the size of their heart, not by their race, religion, size, education or social status.

3. Sometimes no matter how well you prepare or how well you perform you still end up not succeeding.
Life for you will never be perfect, buy you have to get over it and move forward.
Trouble builds inners strength and physical resilience, life is filled with troubles, you will fail, you will likely fail often, it will be painful, it will be discouraging at times.
It will test you to your very core, but if you want to change the world, don’t be afraid of the troubles.

4. If you change the world, sometimes you have to slide down the obstacles head first.
If obstacles come your way, stand your ground, do not walk away, do not act afraid, summon up all your strength and overcome the obstacles and they will vanish.
There are a lot of obstacles in the world, if you hope to succeed, you will have to face them, so if you want to change the world, don’t back down or give in.

5. To be successful in your objectives, it’s important to know that at the darkest moment in life, it is the time you need to be calm & composed.
This is when all your tactical skills, physical power and your inner strength must be brought to bare.
If you want to change the world, you must be your very best in the darkest moments.

If I have learnt anything during my time traveling the world it is the power of hope, the power of one person, Mandela, MLK , Malala, Wangari Maathai……………………
One person can change the world by giving people hope, so if you want to change the world, start singing when you are deep in trouble.

I wish nothing you nothing less of a dramatically positive life changing 2019!

Leadership is earned not bestowed

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview; the director did the last interview, made the last decision. The director discovered from the CV, that the youth’s academic result was excellent. The director asked, “Did you obtain any scholarship in school?” and the youth answered “no”. The director asked, ” Is it your father who paid for your school fees?” the youth answered, “My father passed away when I was one year old, it is my mother who paid for my school fees.” The director asked, “Where did your mother work?” the youth answered, “My mother worked as a cleaner.” The director requested the youth to show him his hands. The youth showed a pair of hand that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, “Did you ever help your mother wash the clothes?” The youth answered, “Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.” The director said, “I have a request, when you go home today, look at your mother’s hand, and then come and see me tomorrow morning.” The youth felt that as the chance of landing the job is high, when he went back, he happily wanted to see his mother’s hand. His mother felt strange, happy but mixed with fear, she showed her hands to the kid. The youth looked at his mother’s hand slowly, his tears rolled down he cheeks. He never noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and that there are so many bruises in her hand.

This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it was this pair of hand that washed clothes everyday to earn him the school fees, the bruises in the mother’s hand is the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future. After looking at him Mum’s hands, the youth quietly cleaned all remaining clothes for his mother. That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office. The director noticed the tear in the youth’s eye, asked: “Can you tell what have you done and learned yesterday?” The youth answered, ” I looked at my mother’s hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes.”‘ The director asked, “Please tell me your feelings.”

The youth replied:
Number 1 – I now appreciate the fact that without my mother, I would not be successful today.
Number 2 -, I now know how to work together with my mother; I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
Number 3 – I know the importance and value of family relationships.

The director said, “This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of others, a person that understands the challenges of others to get thing done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be a Manager. You are hired.”

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employees worked diligently and in a team, the company’s result improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, develops an “entitlement mentality” and always put himself first. He is ignorant of others effort. When he starts work, he assumes every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a Manager, he never understands the challenges facing his employee and always blames others.

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash the dishes together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way and give them an appreciation that everything in life does not come easy.

The most important thing we all need to learn is how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty, and learn the ability to work with others to get things done.

Exceptional Leadership!
by Author Unknown

Lessons Learned from Oprah Winfrey

Whether you’re a fan or not, there is no doubt that Oprah Winfrey changes lives, starting with her own. As a real life rags-to-riches story and a self-made success, she knows the power of choice, living with courage, and following your dreams. She makes things happen.

Success leaves clues. Using Oprah’s words of wisdom and endless resources for information, we can add many patterns and practices for success to our personal knowledge base.

25 Lessons Learned from Oprah Winfrey

While I can’t possibly do justice to Oprah’s lifetime of contribution and service, what I can do is look for themes and patterns. I think the most important theme I noticed is that Oprah is a self-starter and she’s a visionary. Her determination and drive carry her forward, while her reflection and continuous growth help her redefine who she is and carry the best forward. It’s like a fine wine getting better with age. Here are 25 lessons from Oprah we can learn and model from:

1. Keep your dreams right in front of you.
Keep your eye on the prize and follow your dreams. Oprah is a fan of using your dreams as inspiration and guide for your choices in life. She’s recommended creating a vision board to map out what you really want.
2. Anyone can go from rags to riches.
No excuses. It’s not what you were born into; it’s what you do with what you’ve got. Oprah made herself who she is. No matter how bad your past was, it doesn’t need to limit your destiny unless you live in the past.
3. Surround yourself with an A-team.
Learn from the best. Find the mentors and coaches that can help you bring out your best. Oprah has a team of experts on her side. For health, Oprah has Dr. Mehmet Oz, Bob Greene, and Dr. Katz. For spirit, she has Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Elizabeth Lesser, and Martha Beck. For style, she has Val Monroe and Adam Glassman. For relationships, she has Lisa Kogan and Dr. Laura Bergman. For home, she has Nate Berkus, Peter Walsh, and Simran Sethi. For money, she has Suze Orman and Jean Chatzky. She’s worked with best-selling author, Eckhart Tolle and “relationship and life strategy expert,” Dr. Phil. Who’s in your corner? It doesn’t need to be somebody famous. You can learn from people in the past or in the present, from books, or in real life. “Stand on the shoulders of giants” instead of start from scratch.
4. Declutter your life.
Clean up your messes. This could be your house (and Oprah has plenty of resources for organizing and simplifying.) This could be your emotions. This could be your everyday schedule. Declutter to create space for opportunity, creativity, and a sense of well-being. Decluttering can help you get rid of the energy drains and chaos.
5. Live in a more conscious way.
Increase your awareness. Be mindful. Be in the moment. Make thoughtful choices. For example, don’t make emotional food choices. Improve your self-awareness.
6. Practice an attitude of gratitude.
Don’t have a sense of entitlement. Appreciate what you’ve got, what you get, and don’t take things for granted.
7. Make the most of what you’ve got.
Make the most of … your mind … your body … your emotions (including self-esteem and confidence) … your relationships … your home.
8. Embrace the body you’ve got.
Nourish your body. Look your best. Feel your best. Like it or not, your body is yours. Take care of it, so it can take care of you. After all, it needs to last you a life time.
9. Learn for life.
Nourish your mind. Reading is fundamental. Oprah is a firm believer in education and the power of know-how. In the words of Oprah, “Books were my pass to personal freedom. I learned to read at age three, and soon discovered there was a whole world to conquer that went beyond our farm in Mississippi.”
10. Live your best life.
Take responsibility. Be accountable to yourself and to your dreams. Don’t settle. Oprah has extensive resources to help you live your best life. Check out Live Your Best Life and Oprah’s Best Life Video Webcast Archive.
11. Live your own dreams.
Be true to you. Live your truths. At the end of the day, you’re the one that knows your hopes and dreams and can make them happen. Make sure they’re you’re dreams and not somebody else’s.
12. Enjoy your space.
Take care of your surroundings. According to Oprah, one of the best things you can ever give yourself is to have beautiful surroundings.
13. Don’t let fear hold you back.
Take bold action. Don’t let fear make your decisions for you.
14. Think you can.
If you believe, you can achieve. Build your confidence and your self-esteem, one small moment, one choice, or one private victory at a time.
15. Give back.
Oprah consistently demonstrates philanthropy and contribution. She’s effectively dedicated her life to helping other’s live their best life.
16. Keep it real.
She lives larger than life, but she’s human. She’s vulnerable. She has her flaws. She strives for a better life. She lives a life of continuous improvement.
17. Own it.
It’s your life. Don’t point fingers. Don’t play the blame game. Make your dreams happen.
18. Find your inner peace.
Drop the baggage. Forgive and forget. Another key here is self-knowledge and integrity. Be the person you say you are, forgive yourself when you aren’t, and lead the life you want to live.
19. Don’t give up.
Don’t give up on your dreams. Don’t give up on you. Persistence pays off.
20. Be present.
Live in the now, with an eye to the future. Know the results you’re getting. If you don’t like what you’re getting, change your approach. The most important thing you can change first is your attitude.
21. Journal it.
Writing your thoughts can help you reflect and get a more objective look at things. There’s a lot to be said for thinking on paper, even if it’s simple as just organizing your thoughts. Your journal can help improve your self-talk and it can help remind you what you think is important. It can also help you declutter your emotions and your mind.
22. Life’s short.
It really is. As 25 years of the Oprah Winfrey Show ends, and a new chapter for Oprah begins, it’s another reminder that time is limited, life it short, and the best you can do is make the most of what you’ve got.
23. Live without ego.
Eckhart Tolle teaches us that our egos get in the way of living our best life, and Oprah reinforces this message. Through self-acceptance, living in the moment, finding our truths, and giving ourselves to a higher purpose, we unleash our best.
24. Savor the moments.
Savor your relationships. Savor your choices. Savor your food. Savor your joys. Take in your moments. Your moments make up your life.
25. Add fresh starts to your life.
Whether it’s a new day, a new week, a new month, a new year … or simply a new attitude, make it a fresh start. Find the ways to renew yourself, whether it’s a make-over for you or your house, and find the inspiration for a new lease on life.

Top 10 Oprah Winfrey Quotes
Oprah is a wealth of great quotes and she has many words of wisdom. You can learn a lot about her and her insights through her quotes. Here are my top 10 favorite Oprah quotes:

Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.
Every time you suppress some part of yourself or allow others to play you small, you are in essence ignoring the owner’s manual your creator gave you and destroying your design.
I knew there was a way out. I knew there was another kind of life because I had read about it. I knew there were other places, and there was another way of being.
The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.
The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but significance – and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on greater meaning.
Turn your wounds into wisdom.
We are each responsible for our own life – no other person is or even can be.
What I know is, is that if you do work that you love, and the work fulfills you, the rest will come.
What I know for sure is that if you want success, you can’t make success your goal. The key is not to worry about being successful, but to instead work toward being significant, and the success will naturally follow.
You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job, and not be paid for it.

Oprah Winfrey Quotes
I’ve included some of my favorite Oprah Winfrey quotes below. I’ve organized them using the following categories: General, Choice, Dreams / Destiny / Purpose, Giving / Gratitude, Growth, Fear / Failure, Identity / Individuality, Opportunity / Possibility, Passion / Energy, Relationships, and Success.

Oprah on General Philosophy
Excellence is the best deterrent to racism or sexism.
I define joy as a sustained sense of well-being and internal peace – a connection to what matters.
I think that when you invite people to your home, you invite them to yourself.
I still have my feet on the ground, I just wear better shoes.
In every aspect of our lives, we are always asking ourselves, How am I of value? What is my worth? Yet I believe that worthiness is our birthright.
It’s much easier for me to make major life, multi-million dollar decisions, than it is to decide on a carpet for my front porch. That’s the truth.
Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not.
There’s no easy way out. If there were, I would have bought it. And believe me, it would be one of my favorite things!
Oprah on Choice
Be more splendid, more extraordinary. Use every moment to fill yourself up.
Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.
I believe that every single event in life happens in an opportunity to choose love over fear.
I believe that uncertainty is really my spirit’s way of whispering, “I’m in flux. I can’t decide for you. Something is off-balance here.
I believe the choice to be excellent begins with aligning your thoughts and words with the intention to require more from yourself.
My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.
Understand that the right to choose your own path is a sacred privilege. Use it. Dwell in possibility.
With every experience, you alone are painting your own canvas, thought by thought, choice by choice.
Oprah on Dreams / Destiny / Purpose
Before you agree to do anything that might add even the smallest amount of stress to your life, ask yourself: What is my truest intention? Give yourself time to let a yes resound within you. When it’s right, I guarantee that your entire body will feel it.
I believe that everyone is the keeper of a dream – and by tuning into one another’s secret hopes, we can become better friends, better partners, better parents, and better lovers.
I knew there was a way out. I knew there was another kind of life because I had read about it. I knew there were other places, and there was another way of being.
I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become.
I trust that everything happens for a reason, even when we’re not wise enough to see it.
I’ve come to believe that each of us has a personal calling that’s as unique as a fingerprint – and that the best way to succeed is to discover what you love and then find a way to offer it to others in the form of service, working hard, and also allowing the energy of the universe to lead you.
It isn’t until you come to a spiritual understanding of who you are – not necessarily a religious feeling, but deep down, the spirit within – that you can begin to take control.
Often we don’t even realize who we’re meant to be because we’re so busy trying to live out someone else’s ideas. But other people and their opinions hold no power in defining our destiny.
The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams.
The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but significance – and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on greater meaning.
Use what you have to run toward your best – that’s how I now live my life.
You can have it all. You just can’t have it all at once.
Oprah on Giving / Gratitude
Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.
I don’t think you ever stop giving. I really don’t. I think it’s an on-going process. And it’s not just about being able to write a check. It’s being able to touch somebody’s life.
I finally realized that being grateful to my body was key to giving more love to myself.
Living in the moment brings you a sense of reverence for all of life’s blessings.
The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.
What I know for sure is that what you give comes back to you.
Oprah on Growth
Challenges are gifts that force us to search for a new center of gravity. Don’t fight them. Just find a different way to stand.
I am a woman in process. I’m just trying like everybody else. I try to take every conflict, every experience, and learn from it. Life is never dull.
Getting my lifelong weight struggle under control has come from a process of treating myself as well as I treat others in every way.
The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be.
You are built not to shrink down to less but to blossom into more.
Oprah on Fear / Failure
Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.
Every one of us gets through the tough times because somebody is there, standing in the gap to close it for us.
I believe that one of life’s greatest risks is never daring to risk.
I don’t believe in failure. It is not failure if you enjoyed the process.
I have a lot of things to prove to myself. One is that I can live my life fearlessly.
It is confidence in our bodies, minds and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures, new directions to grow in, and new lessons to learn – which is what life is all about.
So go ahead. Fall down. The world looks different from the ground.
The thing you fear most has no power. Your fear of it is what has the power. Facing the truth really will set you free.
Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.
You can take from every experience what it has to offer you. And you cannot be defeated if you just keep taking one breath followed by another.
Oprah on Identity / Individuality
All these years I’ve been feeling like I was growing into myself. Finally, I feel grown.
As you become more clear about who you really are, you’ll be better able to decide what is best for you … the first time around.
Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.
I always knew I was destined for greatness.
I don’t think of myself as a poor deprived ghetto girl who made good. I think of myself as somebody who from an early age knew I was responsible for myself, and I had to make good.
I’m black, I don’t feel burdened by it and I don’t think it’s a huge responsibility. It’s part of who I am. It does not define me.
If you come to fame not understanding who you are, it will define who you are.
Let your light shine. Shine within you so that it can shine on someone else. Let your light shine.
Partake of some of life’s sweet pleasures. And yes, get comfortable with yourself.
Though I am grateful for the blessings of wealth, it hasn’t changed who I am. My feet are still on the ground. I’m just wearing better shoes.
What we’re all striving for is authenticity, a spirit-to-spirit connection.
Oprah on Opportunity / Possibility
Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.
Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.
Every day brings a chance for you to draw in a breath, kick off your shoes, and dance.
Every time you state what you want or believe, you’re the first to hear it. It’s a message to both you and others about what you think is possible. Don’t put a ceiling on yourself.
If you want your life to be more rewarding, you have to change the way you think.
When I look into the future, it’s so bright it burns my eyes.
Oprah on Passion / Energy
Energy is the essence of life. Every day you decide how you’re going to use it by knowing what you want and what it takes to reach that goal, and by maintaining focus.
If you neglect to recharge a battery, it dies. And if you run full speed ahead without stopping for water, you lose momentum to finish the race.
Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.
Oprah on Relationships
Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.
My idea of heaven is a great big baked potato and someone to share it with.
Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
Oprah on Success
For every one of us that succeeds, it’s because there’s somebody there to show you the way out.
I feel that luck is preparation meeting opportunity.
If you want to accomplish the goals of your life, you have to begin with the spirit.
I’ve learned that you can’t have everything and do everything at the same time.
The big secret in life is that there is no big secret. Whatever your goal, you can get there if you’re willing to work.
Unless you choose to do great things with it, it makes no difference how much you are rewarded, or how much power you have.
What material success does is provide you with the ability to concentrate on other things that really matter. And that is being able to make a difference, not only in your own life, but in other people’s lives.