Three types of people

LEAF

Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can’t depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can’t be angry at them, it’s just who they are.

BRANCH

There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it’s possible that you can lose them. Most times they break away when it’s tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can’t handle too much weight. But again you can’t be mad with them, it’s just who they are are.

ROOT

If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy for you. They stay low key and don’t let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you. Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots.

Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people’s lives?

What 25 Movies Teach Us About Love

Love comes in all shapes and sizes and to each his own.  In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I put together a sampling of 25 movies and what they can teach us about life and love.  Even if you’re not a fan of Valentine’s Day, enjoy the quotes and perhaps see things in a new light.  Sometimes just the right words, are like an old song, sung new.

Here they are:

  1. As Good as it Gets – Love can bring out your best.  Melvin: “You make me want to be a better man.”
  2. Be My Valentine Charlie Brown – Just because you don’t get a Valentine, doesn’t mean you aren’t lovable.
  3. Casablanca.  Kiss like you mean it.  Ilsa: “Kiss me. Kiss me as if it were the last time.
    It’s the kind of thing you want to hold on to forever.”
  4. Casper: Don’t let go.  Casper: “If I tell you I love you, can I keep you forever?”
  5. Cinderella.  It’s what dreams are made of.  Cinderella: “A dream is a wish your heart makes when you’re fast asleep. In dreams you will lose your heartaches. Whatever you wish for, you keep. Have faith in your dreams, and someday, your rainbow will come smiling through. No matter how your heart is grieving, if you keep on believing, the dream that you wish will come true.”
  6. Dan in Real Life.  Love is an ability.  Marty: “Love is not a feeling, Mr. Burns. It’s an ability.”
  7. Don Juan DeMarco.  The answer is love.  Don Juan: “There are only four questions of value in life, Don Octavio. What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same: only love.”
  8. Ghost.  Sometimes you need to hear it.  Sam: “Ditto.”
  9. It’s a Wonderful Life.  We’ll do anything to impress the one we love.  George: “What is it you want, Mary? What do you want? You want the moon? Just say the word and I’ll throw a lasso around it and pull it down. Hey. That’s a pretty good idea. I’ll give you the moon, Mary.”
  10. Memoirs of a Geisha. Love is a bond.  Nobu: “We are tied to each other. I know you feel it too.”
  11. My Girl – Butterflies and fuzzy feelings are what first kisses are about.  Loss hurts.
  12. P.S. I Love You – Cherish the time you have together.  It’s part of the journey.  Gerry: “If you can promise me anything, promise me that whenever you’re sad, or unsure, or you lose complete faith, that you’ll try to see yourself through my eyes. Thank you for the honor of being my wife. I’m a man with no regrets. How lucky am I. You made my life, Holly. But I’m just one chapter in yours. There’ll be more. I promise. So here it comes, the big one. Don’t be afraid to fall in love again. Watch out for that signal, when life as you know it ends. P.S. I will always love you”
  13. Romeo and Juliet – Puppy love makes you say the darnedest things.  Romeo: “See, how she leans her cheek upon her hand! O that I were a glove upon that hand, that I might touch that cheek!”
  14. Runnaway Bride – Sometimes it’s a bumpy ride.  But it’s worth it.  Maggie: “I guarantee there’ll be tough times. I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us is going to want get out. But I also guarantee… that if I don’t ask you to be mine, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life. Because I know in my heart… you’re the only one for me.”
  15. Shrek – Love comes in all shapes and sizes.  Stay true to you.
  16. Sleepless in Seattle.  Sometimes, it’s like a snowflake just for you.  Sam: “Well, how long is your program? Well, it was a million tiny little things that, when you added them all up, they meant we were supposed to be together… and I knew it. I knew it the very first time I touched her. It was like coming home… only to no home I’d ever known… I was just taking her hand to help her out of a car and I knew. It was like… magic.”
  17. The Bridges of Madison County.  You know it when you feel it. Robert Kinkaid: “This kind of certainty comes but once in a lifetime.”
  18. The Crow.  Remember them.  Sarah: “If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them. Buildings burn, people die, but real love is forever.”
  19. The Notebook – If you’ve ever really loved, you know what it’s like to really live.  Noah: “I am nothing special; just a common man with common thoughts, and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who’s ever lived: I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul; and to me, this has always been enough.”
  20. The Princess Bride – Nothing beats true love.  Miracle Max says, “Sonny, true love is the greatest thing, in the world-except for a nice MLT – mutton, lettuce and tomato sandwich, where the mutton is nice and lean and the tomato is ripe.”
  21. The Way We Were – Remember how it felt when it wasn’t complicated.  Hold on to that.  Katie: “Wouldn’t it be lovely if we were old? We’d have survived all this. Everything thing would be easy and uncomplicated; the way it was when we were young.”
  22. The Wizard of Oz.  Love isn’t meant to be practical.  Wizard of Oz: “As for you, my galvanized friend, you want a heart. You don’t know how lucky you are not to have one. Hearts will never be practical until they can be made unbreakable.”
  23. Titanic. Endings can be bitter sweet.  Jack: “Winning that ticket, Rose, was the best thing that ever happened to me… it brought me to you. And I’m thankful for that, Rose. I’m thankful. You must do me this honor. Promise me you’ll survive. That you won’t give up, no matter what happens, no matter how hopeless. Promise me now, Rose, and never let go of that promise.”
  24. Wedding Crashers – Love more.  You’ve got more capacity than you might think you do.  John: “You know how they say we only use 10 percent of our brains? I think we only use 10 percent of our hearts.”
  25. When Harry Met Sally.  Sometimes love is like a new lease on life.  Harry: “I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”

What movies wrinkled your brain when it comes to love?

WE ARE NOT IN THE SAME BOAT

I heard that we are in the same boat

But it’s not like that

We are in the same storm

But not in the same boat

Your ship can be shipwrecked

And mine might not be

Or vice versa

For some, quarantine is optimal

Moment of reflection, or re-connection

Easy, in flip flops, with a whiskey or tea.

For others, this is a desperate crisis.

For others it is facing loneliness

For some, a peace, rest time, vacation

Yet for others, torture:

How am I going to pay my bills?

Some were concerned about a brand of chocolates

Others were concerned about the bread for the weekend,

Or if the noodles would last for a few more days.

Some were in their ‘home office’

Others are looking through trash to survive

Some want to go back to work because

They are running out of money

Others want to kill those who break the quarantine

Some need to break the quarantine to stand in line at the banks

Others to escape

Others criticize the government for the lines

Some have experienced the near death of the virus

Some have already lost someone from it

Some are not sure their loved ones are going to make it

And some don’t even believe this is a big deal.

Some of us who are well now

May end up experiencing it,

And some believe they are infallible and will be blown

Away if or when this hits

Someone they know

Some have faith in God and expect miracles during this 2021

Others say the worst is yet to come

So, friends, we are not in the same boat

We are going through a time when our perceptions and

Needs are completely different

And each one will emerge in

His own way, from that storm

Some with a tan from their pool

Others with scars on the soul

It is very important to see

Beyond what is seen at first glance

Not just looking, more that looking, seeing

See beyond the political party

Beyond the biases

Beyond the nose on your face

Do not underestimate the pain of others

If you do not feel it

Do not judge the good life of the other

Do not condemn the bad life of the other

Don’t be a judge

Let us not judge the one who lacks

As well as the one who exceeds him

We are on different ships looking to survive

Let everyone navigate their route with respect

Empathy and responsibility

My wish for the new year

That you have someone to love,

have meaningful work to do,

and have things greater than yourself to believe in;

that you have a reason to smile every day and a shoulder to cry on when you need it;

That you keep your integrity even when the choices are hard;

THAT YOU LOVE DEEPLY,

give freely, forgive willingly,

laugh easily, and live well enough

to be grateful for every day.

WORDS TO PONDER

  • Once upon a time I met a man who told me that: telling the truth and making someone cry, is better than telling a lie and making someone smile and happy.
  • He said to me your true friends are those who will never avoid you just because they have met new friends.
  • As he kept on speaking to me, he said if some people do not appreciate and value my presence, I should work hard to make them value and appreciate my absence.
  • He said I must not be angry with anyone who is quiet on me because there must be a reason why they are quiet, and that I will get to know the reason later.
  • He told me it is always better to be a blessing to others at all times than to be a burden at any time.
  • He said I must learn to forgive others not because they deserve it but because I deserve the peace that comes with forgiveness.
  • I must know that everyone deserves a second chance and many more chances if they ask for forgiveness, but I must not lose my guard over their intentions.
  • I must not only talk to people in my free time, but I must free my time to talk to people.
  • I must know that the truth may hurt for a little while, but a lie will hurt for a long time.
  • I must learn to value and respect people who tell me the Truth no matter how painful the truth is.
  • I must make my decisions when I am in the right mood, not when I am angry, likewise I must not make promises when I am excited with high emotions.
  • I must know that some people are like candles that burn themselves to give light to others. I should not have regrets if I happen to be one of such candles.
  • I must learn to be a caring friend because it is a thousand times better than a careless lover.
  • I should value and protect my relationships of many years of investments, because they are like a book that takes years to write but, can get burnt only within few seconds.
  • He specifically said this repeatedly that: If I have a problem with someone, I should go tell the person and not go tell the world.
  • He said to me that I should know that nobody is too busy, it is just a matter of their priorities within a day.
  • He said to me that people can trust you when you are consistent with what you say and what you do.
  • He said with a low voice, only God can be totally trusted. Trust God 100%.
  • He then said: no matter what, I must not forget those who helped and stood by me in my time of trials and during my difficult times.
  • I must always remember those who turned their backs on me in my difficult times of trials. Not for vengeance, but for the lesson of life.
  • I must be careful with those who put me into difficult times but I must never hate them. It is a lesson of life.
  • He said again: I must be grateful at all times to God for this life and for living. It is a privilege, and not a right.
  • As he was leaving me, he said, always remember how temporary this world is, you must always be conscious of the reality of eternity with God in heaven or with Satan in hell fire.

The ant’s rule book of life

Be Brave

Ants teach you that no matter how terrifying things may look up ahead, you should never chicken out. They are a lot braver than your action movie heroes

Prepare Ahead

Ants are constantly preparing for the season which is yet to come. It has a start contrast to human behaviour. Your priorities can sometimes be driven by what you feel like doing.

Mind Your Own Business

We often like to talk about others, our friends, society and how bad the world is. We have lot of time to talk about others and poke into others business. Ants on the other hand mind their business.

Teamwork Helps

Everything an ant does is for the benefit of the colony and they will work until they are done. Almost on autopilot, each ant knows their duties and they do everything they can do to get their duties completed.

Adapt To Surroundings

You can find ants just about everywhere. Ants know where to find resources and you should do the same. Be quick to adapt to your surrounding and don’t wait for a wake-up call.

Hard Work Matters

Ants are noted for carrying objects that are bigger than them. This is only make possible through sheer hard work and determination. They are not scared of heavy tasks.

Sense Of Discipline

Without a mistake they march after one another in a line. Without dispute or accident, they move about in order. But everywhere in life man finds loopholes to divide.

Spirit Of Sharing

The ants share everything they get. They never eat anything alone. But what do we humans do? If we find something immediately, we try our best to hoard it in a secret place.

Ignore Diversions

If you put your finger in an ants path, it just walks around it and soldiers on. It won’t let your fingers hinder it’s work. You should do the same and not let silly problems get in your way.

It’s Not About Doing Things Perfectly

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.”

Try Stuff, Even If It’s Not Perfect

It reminds me to keep things real and not get caught up in perfection, or the ideal that does not exist.

That’s the essence and foundation for personal growth.

It reminds me just to try…to give my best effort… to get in the arena and go for it… even if it’s not pretty and it’s not perfect.

And  it’s that fundamental mindset that sets the stage to be able to practice the things that lead to doing great things, even if it’s not pretty, and it’s not perfect.

It’s not about perfection.

It’s about progress… and progress is actually one of the secrets to happiness.

When we grow, we light up our life, even if it’s in some small way.

10 Reminders About Not Doing Things Perfectly

Too many people die with their music still in them, or they never realize their potential, because they get caught up in perfection.

Here are a few of my other favorite reminders about not worrying about doing things perfectly:

  1. A friend of mine was good about reminding me: “Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good.”  That was his way of saying to me, focus on “good enough for now” so we could move on the next challenge, and not get stuck in analysis paralysis or the perfection trap.
  2. Similarly, Voltaire put it, ““The best is the enemy of the good.”  Voltaire always has a way with words.
  3. I always liked the phrase: “Make it work, then make it right.”   (balanced with the idea that if you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over 😉  … another way to think of this is, don’t get caught up in pre-mature perfection.
  4. Perfection is a journey, not a destination.  Enjoy the journey of learning and mastery.   This is the essence of continuous improvement.   Thinking back, this is really the big idea that helped me avoid a life of worrying about perfection, and instead, focus on progress.
  5. Focus on progress over perfection.  I always liked the idea that to get better at something, you have to do it more than once.  It takes practice.  You can’t practice very much if you are caught up in perfection.  When I think about it like that, it reminds me of Simon Sinek’s phrasing, “Better is better than best.”
  6. One of my best mentors was good at asking, “Is it effective?”   That was a much better focus, than worrying about some arbitrary notion or measure of perfection.  It was a simple reminder that if it wasn’t working, change your approach.   It’s far better to focus on effectiveness, improvement, or progress.   That’s where the growth is.
  7. As Confucius put it, “Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without.”  Talk about trading up.
  8. As Shakespeare put it, “Striving to better, oft we mar what’s well.”  I’ve seen so many good things, come to an end, either for the sake of perfection, or over-doing something that was better in it’s rough and useful form.  I’ve seen some great art, great ideas, and great projects die that way.  Sometimes you just need to leave well enough alone.
  9. As my mechanic always said, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”   He was incredibly pragmatic about where to invest time and energy, and not to throw good money after bad.
  10. As Leo Tolstoy put it, “If you look for perfection, you’ll never be content.”   It’s one thing to have great expectations, but don’t let your expectations drain the juice out of your life. 

Perfectionism Is Fundamentally Flawed

Here’s what Wikipedia says about perfectionism:

“Perfectionism: a personality trait characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting high performance standards, accompanied by critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations.”

Yuck.

Don’t Fear Perfection

The good news is you don’t ever have to fear perfection.

As Salvador Dali reminds us with his inspiring words:

“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.”

How perfect is that?

What Is Your Life’s Blueprint?

Six months before he was assassinated, King spoke to a group of students at Barratt Junior High School in Philadelphia on October 26, 1967.

I want to ask you a question, and that is: What is your life’s blueprint?

Whenever a building is constructed, you usually have an architect who draws a blueprint, and that blueprint serves as the pattern, as the guide, and a building is not well erected without a good, solid blueprint.

Now each of you is in the process of building the structure of your lives, and the question is whether you have a proper, a solid and a sound blueprint.

I want to suggest some of the things that should begin your life’s blueprint. Number one in your life’s blueprint, should be a deep belief in your own dignity, your worth and your own somebodiness. Don’t allow anybody to make you fell that you’re nobody. Always feel that you count. Always feel that you have worth, and always feel that your life has ultimate significance.

Secondly, in your life’s blueprint you must have as the basic principle the determination to achieve excellence in your various fields of endeavor. You’re going to be deciding as the days, as the years unfold what you will do in life — what your life’s work will be. Set out to do it well.

And I say to you, my young friends, doors are opening to you–doors of opportunities that were not open to your mothers and your fathers — and the great challenge facing you is to be ready to face these doors as they open.

Ralph Waldo Emerson, the great essayist, said in a lecture in 1871, “If a man can write a better book or preach a better sermon or make a better mousetrap than his neighbor, even if he builds his house in the woods, the world will make a beaten path to his door.”

This hasn’t always been true — but it will become increasingly true, and so I would urge you to study hard, to burn the midnight oil; I would say to you, don’t drop out of school. I understand all the sociological reasons, but I urge you that in spite of your economic plight, in spite of the situation that you’re forced to live in — stay in school.

And when you discover what you will be in your life, set out to do it as if God Almighty called you at this particular moment in history to do it. don’t just set out to do a good job. Set out to do such a good job that the living, the dead or the unborn couldn’t do it any better.

If it falls your lot to be a street sweeper, sweep streets like Michelangelo painted pictures, sweep streets like Beethoven composed music, sweep streets like Leontyne Price sings before the Metropolitan Opera. Sweep streets like Shakespeare wrote poetry. Sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will have to pause and say: Here lived a great street sweeper who swept his job well. If you can’t be a pine at the top of the hill, be a shrub in the valley. Be be the best little shrub on the side of the hill.

Be a bush if you can’t be a tree. If you can’t be a highway, just be a trail. If you can’t be a sun, be a star. For it isn’t by size that you win or fail. Be the best of whatever you are.

— From the estate of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Your network is your net worth!

There is something in life called “Social Capital”. The people you know; the people who know you and how they know you. What’s social capital? Listen to this,

Quite unfortunately, people think or behave like social capital is only needed on weddings and burials. That is why you see someone will not have contacted you in ten years but out of the blue they are sending you a message, “Hello so and so, long time, next Sunday is my pre-wedding. Or my uncle is dead please I need your support!”

Social capital is not built overnight; it is reciprocal and does not need money (especially in this virtually connected world) to build. It just needs being sensitive that people have emotions and that you can’t sneak into their lives only when you need help.

Social capital is massively important and when built and used correctly, it can make a very big difference to one’s quality of life. It can save you money, make you money, get you a better job, make things easier and safer, it can save you from prison, or save your life: it can save your time and effort, and make life more enjoyable and productive.

As we progress through the year, please learn to connect with people in your circles and not only Christ. Check on people, send someone a birthday message, check their timelines and comment something positive and inspirational. Pick your phone and call someone, or text them. It could be your relative, your colleague, your former schoolmate, a former or current boss, your CEO, your parents etc.

Creating a connection with people is important for building your social capital. And even if they don’t respond, at least keep in touch and don’t just reach out when you are in need. Even some on whatsapp don’t comment on any issue you put across they just read and keep quiet but that should not deter you. Continue communicating.

Most importantly, respect everyone no matter their status in life and be there when others need you. Be a solution, an encouragement and inspiration. Avoid being a leech, a user or nagger. Just be a nice person who in a calculated way stays in touch with people and brings joy, encouragement and hope.

The most important asset you have in life is not your job, money or title; its people. Your network is your net worth”

Motivational Quotes

Let’s start this list off right, with the top 10 best motivational quotes:

  1. “Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.” – William B. Sprague
  2. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” — Howard Thurman
  3. “I get knocked down. But I get up again. You’re never going to keep me down.” – Chumbawamba
  4. “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” — Winston Churchill
  5. “Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.” — Mary Shelley
  6. “There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.” — Tony Robbins
  7. “Time is the coin of life. Only you can determine how it will be spent.” — Carl Sandburg
  8. “To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  9. “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” — Bruce Lee
  10. “When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.” — Henry David Thoreau

Getting Started

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What do motivational quotes teach us about getting started?

Just start.

 

“Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”
— John R. Wooden

“Just do it.”
— Nike

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”
— Arthur Ashe

“The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”
— Mark Twain

“The wise does at once what the fool does at last.”
—  Baltasar Gracian

“What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.”
— Ralph Marston

“You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do.”
— Henry Ford

Action

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What do motivation quotes teach us about action?

Do more of it.

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”
— William James

“Do something wonderful, people may imitate it.”
— Albert Schweitzer

“Either you run the day or the day runs you.”
— Jim Rohn

“Experience is the child of thought, and thought is the child of action.”
— Benjamin Disraeli

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.”
— Anne Frank

“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost. That is where they should be. Now put the foundation under them.”
— Henry David Thoreau

“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.”
 Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned.”
— Peter Marshall

“Step by step and the thing is done.”
— Charles Atlas

“The more we do the more we can do.”
— William Hazlitt

“Time is the coin of life. Only you can determine how it will be spent.”
— Carl Sandburg

“To talk goodness is not good… only to do it is.”
— Chinese proverb

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.”
— Will Durant

“Well done is better than well said.”
— Benjamin Franklin

“Words are plentiful; deeds are precious.”
– – Lech Walesa

“Work spares us from three evils: boredom, vice, and need.”
— Voltaire

Attitude

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What do motivation quotes teach us about attitude?

Express the best of you.

 

“A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything, and the value of nothing.”
— Oscar Wilde

“A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change.”
– – Earl Nightingale

“Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.”
— Lou Holtz

“Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.”
– – Charles Swindoll

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
— Wayne Dyer

“Character is the result of two things: mental attitude and the way we spend our time.”
– – Elbert Green Hubbard

“Don’t take yourself too seriously. And don’t be too serious about not taking yourself too seriously.”
– – Howard Ogden

“Eagles come in all shapes and sizes, but you will recognize them chiefly by their attitudes.”
– – Charles Prestwich Scott

“Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.”
— Martin Luther King Jr.

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
– – Victor E. Frankl

“Funny is an attitude.”
— Flip Wilson

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”
— Maya Angelou

“It is not the position, but the disposition.”
 J. E. Dinger

“Mental attitude is more important than mental capacity.”
— Walter Dill Scott

“Minds are like parachutes – they only function when open.”
– – Thomas Dewar

“Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us.”
— Earl Nightingale

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in making new landscapes but in having new eyes.”
— Marcel Proust

“You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.”
— Plato

Boldness

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What do motivation quotes teach us about boldness?

Go for it and don’t hold back.

“Aim for the moon. If you miss, you may hit a star.”
— W. Clement Stone

“Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.”
— William James

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”
— Theodore Roosevelt

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day, saying, “I will try again tomorrow.”
— Mary Anne Radmacher

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”
— George Adair

“Fortune favors the brave.”
– – Publius Terence

“Fortune sides with him who dares.”
— Virgil

“Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.”
— Wayne Dyer

“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.”
— Albert Einstein

“He who hesitates is lost.”
– – Proverb

“If you can dream it, you can do it.”
— Walt Disney

“Leap, and the net will appear.”
— John Burroughs

“Opportunities don’t happen, you create them.”
— Chris Grosser

“Take calculated risks. That is quite different from being rash.”
— George S. Patton

“We are still masters of our fate.  We are still captains of our souls.”
— Winston Churchill

“When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.”
– –Henry David Thoreau

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
— Wayne Gretzky

Challenge and Change

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What do motivation quotes teach us about challenge and change?

Make the most of it.

“Change is not merely necessary to life – it is life.”
— Alvin Toffler

“Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.”
— Alfred A. Montapert

“Kites rise highest against the wind; not with it.”
— Winston Churchill

“Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.”
– – Samuel Johnson

“Only I can change my life. No one else can do it for me.”
— Carol Burnett

“The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity.”
— Winston Churchill

“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.”
— George Bernard Shaw

Determination and Persistence

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What do motivation quotes teach us about determination and effort?

That’s what it takes to succeed.

“Always look at what you have left.  Never look at what you have lost.”
— Robert H. Schuller

“Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.”
— Thomas Jefferson

“Don’t watch the clock; do what it does. Keep going.”
— Sam Levenson

“Either I will find a way, or I will make one.”
— Philip Sidney

“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”
— Samuel Beckett

“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.”
— Og Mandino

“I’ve failed over and over and over again. And that is why I succeed.”
— Michael Jordan

“If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.”
— H. G. Wells

“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.”
— Confucius

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.”
— Jim Ryun

“Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
— Harriet Beecher Stowe

“Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.”
— Mary Shelley

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.”
— Confucius

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”
— Thomas A. Edison

“Pursue one great decisive aim with force and determination.”
— Carl von Clausewitz

“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.”
— Robert Collier

“The best way out is always through.”
— Robert Frost

“You just can’t beat the person who never gives up.”
— Babe Ruth

“Your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.”
— Abraham Lincoln

Greatness

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What do motivation quotes teach us about greatness?

Don’t set limits.  Act in limitless ways.

“Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.”
— Og Mandino

“Don’t put a limit on what can be accomplished.”
– – Christopher Reeve

“I’d rather attempt to do something great and fail, than to attempt nothing and succeed.”
— Robert H. Schuller

“It’s great to be great, but its greater to be human.”
— Will Rogers

“Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.”
— Theodore Roosevelt

“The first key to greatness is to be in reality what we appear to be.”
— Socrates

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.”
— William James

“The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible.”
— Arthur C. Clarke

“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.”
— Confucius

“To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are.”
– – Muhammad Ali

“Try not to be a person of success, but rather a person of virtue.”
 Albert Einstein

“You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”
— Albert Einstein

Optimism

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What do motivation quotes teach us about optimism?

Look for the bright side until you find one.

“A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.”
— Herm Albright

“Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.”
– – Hans Selye

“An optimist is a person who sees a green light everywhere. The pessimist sees only the red light. But the truly wise person is color blind.”
— Dr. Albert Schweitzer

“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow.”
– – Helen Adams Keller

“Optimism means expecting the best, but confidence means knowing how to handle the worst. Never make a move if you are merely optimistic.”
— The Zurich Axioms

“The best way to cheer yourself up: Cheer everybody else up.”
— Mark Twain

“The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.”
— Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

“Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.”
— John Wooden

“To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.”
 Ralph Waldo Emerson

Anonymous on Motivation

What does “anonymous” or “unknown” teach us through their motivational quotes?

We help motivate our self and others through our attitude.

 

“Sometimes we are limited more by attitude than by opportunities.”
— Anonymous

“A healthy attitude is contagious but don’t wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier.”
— Anonymous

“Although fate presents the circumstances, how you react depends on your character.”
— Anonymous

“Attitude determines altitude.”
— Anonymous

“Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.”
– – Anonymous

“Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?”
— Anonymous

“People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.”
— Anonymous

Brian Tracy on Motivation

What does Brian Tracy teach us about motivation through his motivation quotes?

We shape our motivation through our thoughts and actions.

 

“Your attitude is an expression of your values,beliefs and expectations.”
— Brain Tracy

“Optimism is the one quality more associated with success and happiness than any other.”
— Brain Tracy

“If you did not care at all what anyone else thought about you, what would you do differently or change in your life?”
— Brain Tracy

“Make a game of finding something positive in every situation.Ninety-five percent of your emotions are determined by how you interpret events to yourself.”
— Brain Tracy

“Whatever is expressed is impressed. Whatever you say to yourself, with emotion, generates thoughts, ideas and behaviors consistent with those words.”
— Brain Tracy

Bruce Lee on Motivation

What does Bruce Lee teach us about motivation through his motivational quotes?

Live with zest and be your best.

 

“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.”
— Bruce Lee

“As you think, so shall you become.”
— Bruce Lee

“Ever since I was a child I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential.”
— Bruce Lee

“A goal is not always meant to be reached, it often serves simply as something to aim at.”
— Bruce Lee

“All fixed set patterns are incapable of adaptability or pliability. The truth is outside of all fixed patterns.”
— Bruce Lee

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”
— Bruce Lee

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
— Bruce Lee

“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”
— Bruce Lee

“If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.”
— Bruce Lee

“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”
— Bruce Lee

“It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.”
— Bruce Lee

“Knowledge will give you power, but character respect.”
– – Bruce Lee

“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.”
– – Bruce Lee

“Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.”
— Bruce Lee

“Real living is living for others.”
— Bruce Lee

“Take things as they are. Punch when you have to punch. Kick when you have to kick.”
– – Bruce Lee

“The less effort, the faster and more powerful you will be.”
— Bruce Lee

Jim Rohn on Motivation

What does Jim Rohn teach us about motivation through his motivation quotes?

Start your motivation from the inside out.

 

“Happiness is not by chance, but by choice.”
— Jim Rohn

“Humans have the remarkable ability to get exactly what they must have. But there is a difference between a ‘must’ and ‘want.’”
— Jim Rohn

“Motivation alone is not enough.If you have an idiot and you motivate him,now you have a motivated idiot.”
— Jim Rohn

“My suggestion would be to walk away from the 90% who don’t and join the 10% who do.”
— Jim Rohn

“The best motivating is self-motivating.The guy says,”I wish someone would come by and turn me on.”What if they don’t show up?You’ve got to have a better plan for your life.”
— Jim Rohn

“When you know what you want,and you want it badly enough,you’ll find a way to get it.”
— Jim Rohn

“Without a sense of urgency, desire loses its value.”
– – Jim Rohn

Ralph Waldo Emerson on Motivation

What does Ralph Waldo Emerson teach us about motivation from this motivation quotes?

Get out of the way of your own greatness.

 

“Do the thing we fear, and death of fear is certain.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A chief event of life is the day in which we have encountered a mind that startled us.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A good indignation brings out all one’s powers.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A great part of courage is the courage of having done the thing before.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A man is what he thinks about all day long.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A man’s growth is seen in the successive choirs of his friends.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Always do what you are afraid to do.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“As long as a man stands in his own way, everything seems to be in his way.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“As a cure for worrying, work is better than whiskey.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“As soon as there is life there is danger.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Beauty without expression is boring.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Before we acquire great power we must acquire wisdom to use it well.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Build a better mousetrap and the world will beat a path to your door.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live as well as think.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Each age, it is found, must write its own books; or rather, each generation for the next succeeding.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it nothing great ever achieved.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Ever artist was first an amateur.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

Tony Robbins on Motivation

What does Tony Robbins teach us about motivation through his motivation quotes?

Do what makes your heart sing.

 

“Live with passion.”
— Tony Robbins

“Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.”
— Tony Robbins

“It not knowing what to do, it’s doing what you know.”
— Tony Robbins

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.”
— Tony Robbins

“Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”
– – Tony Robbins

“There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.”
– – Tony Robbins

“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
– – Tony Robbins

Zig Ziglar on Motivation

What does Zig Ziglar teach us about motivation through his motivation quotes?

Focus on the positive, and you’ll catch more flies with honey, than with vinegar.

“Of all the ‘attitudes’ we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life-changing.”
— Zig Ziglar

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”
— Zig Ziglar

“Positive thinking won’t let you do anything but it will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.”
– – Zig Ziglar

“To respond is positive, to react is negative.”
– – Zig Ziglar

“When you choose to be pleasant and positive in the way you treat others, you have also chosen, in most cases,how you are going to be treated by others.”
– – Zig Ziglar

“You can disagree without being disagreeable.”
— Zig Ziglar

“I’ve go to say ‘no’ to the good to say ‘yes’ to the best.”
– – Zig Ziglar

“You cannot tailor make the situations in life, but you can tailor make the attitudes to fit those situations before they arise.”
— Zig Ziglar

African folklore

Long time ago in the Animal Kingdom, a sheep was passing and saw a lion crying inside a cage trap and the Lion begged the Sheep to save him with a promise not to kill and eat it but the Sheep refused*.

After much persuasion and due the Sheep’s gullibility it opened the cage for the Lion.
Now the Lion was very hungry having stayed in the cage for days without food.
It quickly grabbed the Sheep to kill and eat but the Sheep reminded him of his promise.
They were still there arguing when other animals came passing and they sought to know what happened.

*Both the Lion and the Sheep narrated their own side of the story but because of fear and in trying to gain favour with the Lion, all the animals took sides with the Lion except the Tortoise who claimed not to understand the whole scenario*.

Now the Tortoise asked the Lion to show them where he was before the Sheep rescued him, he pointed at the cage.
He asked again, “were you inside or outside when the sheep arrived”? The Lion said he was inside.
The Tortoise again said “ok, enter lets see how difficult it could be inside”.
The Lion entered and the Tortoise locked him back inside.

*In amazement the other animals asked Tortoise “why” and he replied “if we allow him eat the Sheep today, he will still go hungry tomorrow and we don’t know the next amongst us to be eaten tomorrow*.

*Moral*:

Don’t support evil today because it doesn’t affect you directly, tomorrow it could be your turn.

Be reasonable
Stay safe.

MATURITY IS THE ABILITY TO DELAY GRATIFICATION

 

My mother graduated in 1965 &
got a teaching job at a Government
College

The teachers were given car loans
& she bought a brand new Opel
Kadett.

They were to pay back the loan
over 4 years.

However, one of the teachers took
half of the money the others took
as loan…
Bought a fairly used car & got a driver.

So, when other teachers would drive to
school & park their brand new cars, his
driver would drop him off in the
morning & come and pick him at knocking off time.

My mum said they laughed at him,
calling him “Acting Big Man” because
he got a driver…
But he’d just smile.
One day, one of the teachers had cause
to go out of the school during school
hours. He returned to report that he
saw his colleague’s driver using his car
as *taxi*

When they “reported” his driver to
him, he said he was aware that was
why he hired a driver…

Why park a car for 6-8 hours, when it
can be making money for you?
The other teachers were stunned:
suddenly, he didn’t look as stupid as
they thought!
Now, because of the extra income from
using his car as a taxi, he was able to
pay back the loan in a year…

By the 2nd year, he bought a 2nd car to
add to his taxi fleet.
By the 3rd year, he bought 2 more
taxis!

By the 4th year when my mum & others
finished paying their loans, this guy had 6 taxis.

Then he bought a brand new Opel
Kadett, the newer model!
Other cars were 4 years old…
My mum said, that was the moment
they realised who was smart & who was
foolish among them all.

This happened 1965-1970.
I was born 1968, in the midst of all this.

I was told that story in 1979 when I
entered secondary school

It has remained in my brains since then…

Today, I see too many young folks more
interested in *spending* their money instead of *investing* it they
don’t have to buy the things they don’t
need to impress people who don’t like
them.

Too many people living fake lives in
these days of social media.

The fake generation buy fake hair, fake nails , list is long – fake almost everything.

I’ve seen people pose by cars they don’t
own to take pictures & post on social
media.
Young people don’t seem to understand
discretion: the competition to out do
each other in the “I’ve arrived” ranking
is just too much.
My niece, an undergraduate asked me
to buy her a phone…
I asked what type does she want: she
mentioned a type, I checked the price:
$200 US

Now, I use an Infinix Hot 5 worth maybe $50US or less
thereabout, it was even a gift by one
of my site contractors.
But this 20 year old girl wants to use a
$200 US phone!
Something is definitely wrong
somewhere…!

Seriously, we can’t continue like this.

My generation is halfway out.
I am sorry for the younger generation,
those aged 16-30. I honestly don’t know
what this world would be like when
they are in their 50s & 60s.
May God’s mercy prevail upon them,
may He give them sense.
Amen.

Let me add:
Mike Murdock says,
“A foolish man will enjoy a perfect
today & lose a perfect tomorrow.
A wise man will forfeit a perfect today
to gain a perfect tomorrow.”

Every young person needs to
understand this!

Manhood Is Not Natural

Manhood is not natural, but it is essential. No society can endure if it does not harness male sexual energy and teach men to take care of the children they father and the women who bear them.

Few would disagree that manhood is in crisis today. Men are falling behind women in important measures of personal and social well-being. In deeply consequential ways, they have become the weaker sex.

Some women celebrate this. Most, however, are deeply concerned, especially since the weakness of the men in their lives makes it increasingly difficult for them to become wives and mothers. The equation is really quite simple: if boys don’t become good, dependable men, they can’t become good, dependable husbands and fathers.

The majority of women want marriage and babies, and usually quite dearly. They don’t need to be talked into them and never really have. Ask women today their biggest obstacle to achieving this goal. It’s not a shortage of males, but of responsible adult males. Men. If they cannot find marriageable men, they often go with other choices. It’s no coincidence that the two fastest growing family formation trends are unmarried cohabitation and out-of-wedlock childbearing among twenty- and thirty-something women.

The causes of these trends can be found in the underappreciated and often-denied distinct natures of manhood and womanhood. It’s rooted in a strange but essential anthropological truth: Womanhood is natural. Manhood is not.

Womanhood Is Natural

Womanhood is a natural phenomenon. A female’s biological make-up usually ensures that she will grow into a healthy woman. Leave her to herself, and it’s likely to happen. It’s why the phrases “woman up,” “be a woman,” or “make a woman out of her” don’t exist.

As her body matures, internally and externally, it sends her and those around her an unmistakable message about what she is and what she’s becoming. It moves her inexorably in that direction with a force as great as it is mysterious. Few girls miss these cues. It’s not just her body that is changing; she is becoming a different person. Her family and community treat her differently because of it. A father shudders at it, as it forever changes the way he interacts with “his little girl.” He must bow to and honor it. I’m the father of a girl. I know it all too well.

Women must be taught, with great political and ideological pressure, to ignore their womanhood and abandon their children, for doing so is contrary to all nature.

Manhood Is Taught

The opposite is true of manhood.  Unlike a woman, a man has no civilized role or agenda inscribed in his body. The boy has no on-board GPS directing him toward his future. His transition into manhood can only come into being with significant, intentional work by other men. As a behavior, manhood must be learned, proven, and earned. As an identity, manhood must be bestowed by a boy’s father and the community’s larger fraternity of men. His mother can only affirm it. She cannot bequeath it.

Maleness just happens, but manhood does not. The first is a biological event, while the second is a developed character quality. When manhood is not formed and cultivated, males fail to mature, resulting in the “perpetual adolescence” or “failure to launch” that plagues our culture. When so many men play beer pong into their forties, live in their parents’ basements, play videogames twelve hours a day, and encounter women only in the form of pixels on a porn site, it seems clear that we have a manhood problem.

The human male nature doesn’t naturally go in the direction civilization requires; it requires the direction of other men. Unlike the female nature, which tends to exist reliably among the median scale of human behavior, the male nature is oriented more toward extremes, for good or bad.

Manhood must be crafted and refined in order to orient males in pro-social, communitarian directions. In fact, this is the first work of every civilization. Anthropologists tell us that the original and most fundamental social problem of any culture is the unattached male. Left to his own, he is not inclined to play well with others. He is not disposed to make himself, or anyone around him, a better person. He is not likely to become other-focused. Either fiercely competitive or indolent, he is more likely to become a social contagion. He will either seek to define himself in the community by power, false confidence, and selfish conquest, or shrink away toward inactivity and reticence.

In every known human society, everywhere in the world, the young male learns that when he grows up, one of the things which he must do in order to be a full member of society is to provide food [and protection] for some female and her young. … every known human society rests firmly on the learned nurturing behaviour of men.

Thus, across virtually all cultures, manhood has largely consisted of three essential qualities: procreation, provision, and protection. If the boy doesn’t learn these things, then he is not likely to become a good, selfless, serving man. Shame and derision from the community will become his lot.

Tragically, manhood is becoming extinct because we are not teaching it.

Male vs. Female Sexuality

Additionally, the most elemental destabilizing force in every culture is not merely unrefined male energy, but his unchecked sexual energy. Full stop. In its fundamental essence, it is deeply anti-social. It has no civilizing, pro-social nature in itself. To become so, it must be acted upon by other forces. By contrast, female sexual energy tends to be inherently pro-social. Female sexuality has the power to create human civilization by moderating the behavior of men, but it can only do this when there is social appreciation for these differences in male and female sexuality, coupled with the strong social morals they require.

Of course, the flip side of unmoderated male energy goes beyond sexuality. A female’s naturally domesticating influence on overall male energy and behavior is easily demonstrated. Who pays substantially lower auto, health, and life insurance premiums, married men or their single peers? Service to the god of equality requires there be no difference here. But we all know better. The wedding-ring-clad man enjoys the financial benefit, and not because insurance companies have a sentimental heart for weddings. Every insurance company knows married men direct their male wanderlust and energy toward safety and responsibility. Single men, not so much.

Without the essential tempering influence of female sexuality, male sexuality is a whole other animal, and not a pretty one.

Sex Makes Babies

This is a problem, because sex makes babies. Every society must give greater attention to this fact than it does to the need for food, shelter, and protection from outside attack. These and all other vital needs are either enhanced or crippled by what a community expects of the relationship between a man, the children he sires, and the woman he does so with. If it doesn’t get this right, few other good things the community needs are likely.

Of course, the male’s attitude and approach toward his procreative act is drastically different from hers. His necessary participation in the act is solely orgasmic, lasting seconds, and is all pleasure. He is not naturally connected to the potential of that act. The mother’s connection, however, is profound, starting shortly after conception and intensifying daily. It costs her dearly in energy, sleep, and overall comfort, starting long before the pain of childbirth. She is inescapably invested. He is not.

The crucial process of civilization is the subordination of male sexual impulses and biology to the long-term horizons of female sexuality . . . It is male behavior that must be changed to create a civilized order. The crucial process of civilization. No society can develop or endure without succeeding at this.

Manhood, Marriage, and Fatherhood

The woman is not only the stabilizing force of male sexuality; she is the authorizing factor in fatherhood. If a particular man desires to be involved in the life of his child, it is the child’s mother, and she alone, who determines whether and how he may do this. She typically desires to make this relationship public by making the father of the child her husband. Anthropologists have called this the legitimization of the child.

Consider the etymology of two key words: matrimony and husband. The first comes from the Latin, matrimonium, meaning literally “obligation to the mother.” Since it is virtually impossible for a mother and her child to thrive by themselves, marriage arose in nearly every civilization throughout time as a way to have the impregnating male take responsibility for his child and the mother. The surrounding community expects the male to fulfill his obligation so it doesn’t have to. It is why marriage is a deeply public act and no society has found a way to function without it.

Thus, the good man steps up, and in doing so, becomes a husband. This stems from the Old Norse, meaning literally house dweller: hús (“house”) bóndi (“dweller” and “bonded serf” or “slave”). The husband settles down and confines himself to a particular household, serving and providing resources for its inhabitants. He becomes a whole other kind of man, taking full responsible for his sexuality and his part in the coming generation.

What Happens When Manhood Isn’t Taught?

It is then certainly no coincidence that the term “feminization of poverty” was coined as the sexual revolution initiated the great divorce between sex, babies, and marriage.  While large opportunities were opening for women due to greater equality, Poverty is rapidly becoming a female problem. She blamed the significant increase in the number of female-headed families.

Ghettos are not created by city planners, crime by the police, or failing health by big pharma. Each of these social ills arises by inattention to the sexual behaviors of males. If he doesn’t have to marry before having sex (and potentially fathering children), the average man won’t. So he hasn’t. The feminization of poverty and the accompanying declines in female happiness and childhood well-being are the tragic results.

Manhood ideologies always include a criterion of selfless generosity, even to the point of sacrifice. Again and again, we find that “real” men are those who give more than they take away; they serve others. Real men are generous, even to a fault. Non-men are often those stigmatized as stingy and unproductive.

A good man is the fountain, not the drain. The formation of such men is the first task of human civilization, and its largest threat when ignored.

The question is, how can we recover manhood today? We must find the answer. For it is not only the fate of men that is at stake, but the fate of our women, children, and society as well.

The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Green

Law 1: Never outshine the master

Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power

When it comes to power, outshining the master is perhaps the worst mistake of all.

Never take your position for granted and never let any favors you receive go to your head.

Law 2: Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies

But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them

Since honesty rarely strengthens friendship, you may never know how a friend truly feels. Friends will say that they love your poetry, adore your music, envy your taste in clothes— maybe they mean it, often they do not.

The key to power, then, is the ability to judge who is best able to further your interests in all situations. Keep friends for friendship, but work with the skilled and competent.

Law 3: Conceal Your Intentions

Use decoyed objects and desires and red herrings to throw people off the scent

Hide your intentions not by closing up (with the risk of appearing secretive, and making people suspicious) but by talking endlessly about your desires and goals— just not your real ones. You will kill three birds with one stone: You appear friendly, open, and trusting; you conceal your intentions; and you send your rivals on time-consuming wild-goose chases.

Use smoke screens to disguise your actions. This derives from a simple truth: people can only focus on one thing at a time. It is really too difficult for them to imagine that the bland and harmless person they are dealing with is simultaneously setting up something else

As Kierkegaard wrote, “The world wants to be deceived.”

Law 4: Always say less than necessary

One oft-told tale about Kissinger… involved a report that Winston Lord had worked on for days. After giving it to Kissinger, he got it back with the notation, “Is this the best you can do?” Lord rewrote and polished and finally resubmitted it; back it came with the same curt question. After redrafting it one more time— and once again getting the same question from Kissinger-Lord snapped, “Damn it, yes, it’s the best I can do. ” To which Kissinger replied: “Fine, then I guess I’ll read it this time. ”

Persons who cannot control his words shows that he cannot control himself, and is unworthy of respect. But the human tongue is a beast that few can master. It strains constantly to break out of its cage, and if it is not tamed, it will run wild and cause you grief. Power cannot accrue to those who squander their treasure of words.

Power is in many ways a game of appearances, and when you say less than necessary, you inevitably appear greater and more powerful than you are.

Learn the lesson: Once the words are out, you cannot take them back. Keep them under control. Be particularly careful with sarcasm: The momentary satisfaction you gain with your biting words will be outweighed by the price you pay.

Law 5: So much depends on reputation, guard it with your life

Always be alert to potential attacks and thwart them before they happen. Meanwhile, learn to destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations. Then stand aside and let public opinion hang them.

Doubt is a powerful weapon: Once you let it out of the bag with insidious rumors, your opponents are in a horrible dilemma.

Once you have a solid base of respect, ridiculing your opponent both puts him on the defensive and draws more attention to you, enhancing your own reputation.

Law 6: Court attention at all costs

Surround your name with the sensational and the scandalous.

Better to be slandered and attacked than ignored.

Every crowd has a silver lining.

At the start of your career, you must attach your name and reputation to a quality, an image, that sets you apart from other people.

Create an air of mystery.

Remember: Most people are upfront, can be read like an open book, take little care to control their words or image, and are hopelessly predictable. By simply holding back, keeping silent, occasionally uttering ambiguous phrases, deliberately appearing inconsistent, and acting odd in the subtlest of ways, you will emanate an aura of mystery. The people around you will then magnify that aura by constantly trying to interpret you

Do something that cannot be easily explained or interpreted

Law 7: Get others to do the work for you, but always take the credit

No notes.

Law 8: Make other people come to you, use bait if necessary

For negotiations or meetings, it is always wise to lure others into your territory, or the territory of your choice. You have your bearings, while they see nothing familiar and are subtly placed on the defensive.

Law 9: Win through your actions, never through argument

No notes.

Law 10: Infection: Avoid the unhappy or the unlucky

When you suspect you are in the presence of an infector, don’t argue, don’t try to help, don’t pass the person on to your friends, or you will become enmeshed. Flee the infector’s presence or suffer the consequences.

Law 11: Learn to keep people dependent on you

No notes.

Law 12: Use selective honesty and generosity to disarm your victim

No notes.

Law 13: When asking for help, appeal to people’s self interest, never their mercy or gratitude

No notes.

Law 14: Pose as a friend, work as a spy

No notes.

Law 15: Crush your enemy totally

No notes.

Law 16: Use absence to increase strength and honor

The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.

At the start of an affair, you need to heighten your presence in the eyes of the other. If you absent yourself too early, you may be forgotten. But once your lover’s emotions are engaged, and the feeling of love has crystallized, absence inflames and excites. Giving no reason for your absence excites even more.

Law 17: Keep others in suspended terror, cultivate an air of unpredictability

Too much unpredictability will be seen as a sign of indecisiveness, or even of some more serious psychic problem. Patterns are powerful, and you can terrify people by disrupting them. Such power should only be used judiciously.

Law 18: Do not build a fortress to protect yourself, isolation is dangerous

No notes.

Law 19: Know who you’re dealing with, do not offend the wrong person

No notes.

Law 20: Do not commit to anyone

Do not commit to anyone, but be courted by all.

When you hold yourself back, you incur not anger but a kind of respect. You instantly seem powerful because you make yourself ungraspable, rather than succumbing to the group, or to the relationship, as most people do.

People who rush to the support of others tend to gain little respect in the process, for their help is so easily obtained, while those who stand back find themselves besieged with supplicants.

Do not commit to anyone, stay above the fray.

Remember: You have only so much energy and so much time. Every moment wasted on the affairs of others subtracts from your strength.

Law 21: Play a sucker to catch a sucker, seem dumber than your mark

Given how important the idea of intelligence is to most people’s vanity, it is critical never inadvertently to insult or impugn a person’s brain power.

Law 22: Use the surrender tactic: transform weakness into power

People trying to make a show of their authority are easily deceived by the surrender tactic.

It is always our first instinct to react, to meet aggression with some other kind of aggression. But the next time someone pushes you and you find yourself starting to react, try this: Do not resist or fight back, but yield, turn the other cheek, bend.

If you surrender instead, you have an opportunity to coil around your enemy and strike with your fangs from close up.

Law 23: Concentrate your forces

intensity defeats extensity every time.

Law 24: Play the perfect courtier

The laws of court politics:

Avoid ostentationPractice nonchalanceBe frugal with flatteryArrange to be noticedAlter your style and language according to the person ou are dealing withNever be the bearer of bad newsNever affect friendliness and intimacy with your masterNever criticize those above you directlyBe frugal in asking those above you for favorsNever joke about appearances of tastesDo not be the court cynicBe self observantMaster your emotionsFit the spirits of the timesBe the source of pleasure

Law 25: Re-Create Yourself

Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define it for you.

The world wants to assign you a role in life. And once you accept that role you are doomed.

Remake yourself into a character of power. Working on yourself like clay should be one of your greatest and most pleasurable life tasks.

The first step in the process of self-creation is self-consciousness— being aware of yourself as an actor and taking control of your appearance and emotions.

The second step in the process of self-creation is a variation on the George Sand strategy: the creation of a memorable character, one that compels attention, that stands out above the other players on the stage.

Law 26: Keep your hands clean

Conceal your mistakes, have a scapegoat around to blame.

Make use of the cats paw.

Law 27: Play on people’s need to believe to create a cult like following

Five rules of cult making

Keep it vague, keep it simpleEmphasize the visual and sensational over the intellectualBorrow the forms of organized religion to structure the groupDisguise your source of incomeSet up an us vs them dynamic

Law 28: Enter action with boldness

The bolder lie the better.

Lions circle the hesitant prey.

Boldness strikes fear, fear creates authority.

Going halfway with half a heart digs a deeper grave.

Hesitation creates gaps, boldness obliterates them.

Audacity separates you from the herd.

When you are as small and obscure as David was, you must find a Goliath to attack. The larger the target, the more attention you gain.

Law 29: Plan all the way to the end

No notes.

Law 30: Make your accomplishments seem effortless

No notes.

Law 31: Control the options, get others to play with the cards you deal

You give people a sense of how things will fall apart without you, and you offer them a “choice”: I stay away and you suffer the consequences, or I return under circumstances that I dictate.

Color the choices, propose three or four choices of action for each situation, and would present them in such a way that the one he preferred always seemed the best solution compared to the others.

Force the resister, Push them to “choose” what you want them to do by appearing to advocate the opposite.

Alter the playing field.

The shrinking options: A variation on this technique is to raise the price every time the buyer hesitates and another day goes by. This is an excellent negotiating ploy to use on the chronically indecisive, who will fall for the idea that they are getting a better deal today than if they wait till tomorrow.

The weak man on the precipice: This tactic is similar to “Color the Choices,” but with the weak you have to be more aggressive. Work on their emotions— use fear and terror to propel them into action. Try reason and they will always find a way to procrastinate.

Brothers in Crime: You attract your victims to some criminal scheme, creating a bond of blood and guilt between you.

The horns of a dilemma: The lawyer leads the witnesses to decide between two possible explanations of an event, both of which poke a hole in their story. They have to answer the lawyer’s questions, but whatever they say they hurt themselves. The key to this move is to strike quickly: Deny the victim the time to think of an escape. As they wriggle between the horns of the dilemma, they dig their own grave.

Law 32: Play to people’s fantasies

People rarely believe that their problems arise from their own misdeeds and stupidity. Someone or something out there is to blame— the other, the world, the gods— and so salvation comes from the outside as well.

Law 33: Discover each man’s thumbscrew

Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall. That weakness is usually an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret pleasure. Either way, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.

Finding the thumbscrews

Pay attention to gestures and unconscious signalsFind the helpless child, look to their childhoodLook for contrasts, an overt trait often reveals its oppositeFind the weak link,Fill their emotional voidFeed on their uncontrollable emotion

Always look for passions and obsessions that cannot be controlled. What people cannot control, you can control for them.

Law 34: Be royal in your own fashion. Act like a king to be treated like one

No notes.

Law 35: Master the art of timing

No notes.

Law 36: Disdain things you cannot have, ignoring them is the best revenge

Remember: You choose to let things bother you. You can just as easily choose not to notice the irritating offender, to consider the matter trivial and unworthy of your interest. That is the powerful move.

Desire often creates paradoxical effects: The more you want something, the more you chase after it, the more it eludes you. The more interest you show, the more you repel the object of your desire. This is because your interest is too strong— it makes people awkward, even fearful. Uncontrollable desire makes you seem weak, unworthy, pathetic.

Law 37: Create compelling spectacles

No notes.

Law 38: Think as you like but behave like others

If Machiavelli had had a prince for disciple, the first thing he would have recommended him to do would have been to write a book against Machiavellism.

Law 39: Stir up waters to catch fish

Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage.

Law 40: Despise the free lunch

The worth of money is not in its possession, but in its use.

Law 41: Avoid stepping into a great man’s shoes

No notes.

Law 42: Strike the shepherd and the sheep will scatter

Within any group, trouble can most often be traced to a single source, the unhappy, chronically dissatisfied one who will always stir up dissension and infect the group with his or her ill ease. Before you know what hit you the dissatisfaction spreads. Act before it becomes impossible to disentangle

Once you recognize who the stirrer is, pointing it out to other people will accomplish a great deal.

43: Work on the hearts and minds of others

Remember: The key to persuasion is softening people up and breaking them down, gently. Seduce them with a two-pronged approach: Work on their emotions and play on their intellectual weaknesses.

44: Disarm and infuriate with the mirror effect

When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson.

45: Preach the need to change, but never reform too much at once

If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.

Even while people understand the need for change, knowing how important it is for institutions and individuals to be occasionally renewed, they are also irritated and upset by changes that affect them personally.

46: Never appear too perfect

Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable.

Do not try to help or do favors for those who envy you; they will think you are condescending to them.

47: Do not go past the mark you aimed for. In victory, know when to stop

No notes.

48: Assume formlessness

By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.

The 49th Law of Power is “You do not talk about the Laws of Power“. There is a reason why Robert Greene decided to leave it out. Don’t go running your mouth about the cool manipulative techniques found in the book. You will only draw resentment upon you.

The 50th Law of Power is -You must go the opposite direction and move before you think you are ready. It is as if you are making it a little more difficult for yourself, deliberately creating obstacles in your path. But it is a law of power that your energy will always rise to the appropriate level.” Keys: Make the most of what you have.

Who Are You Walking With?

Its not important how we spend our time,

but with whom we spend it.

The only thing that’s keeping some people from a new level of their destiny is wrong friendships.

You may have to prune off some relationships that are not adding value to your life.

Don’t hang around people who are not going anywhere, who have no goals or dreams, who comprise and take the easy way out.

If you tolerate mediocrity, it will rub off on you.

If you hand out with jealous, critical, unhappy people, you will end up jealous, critical and unhappy.

You cannot become who God created you to be hanging out with them.

Take a look at your friends. If your friends are winners, leaders, givers and successful, if they have integrity and a spirit of excellence and are positive and motivated, those good qualities are going to rub off on you. Invest your time with them.  They’re making you better.

The Right Kind of People

Find people who can handle your darkest truths, who don’t change the subject when you share your pain, or try to make you feel bad for feeling bad. Find people who understand we all struggle, some of us more than others, and that there’s no weakness in admitting it. In fact, few things take much strength. Find people who want to be real, however that looks and feels, and who want you too to be real, however that looks and feels. Find people who get that life is hard, and who get that life is also beautiful. and who aren’t afraid to honor both those realities. Find people who help you feel more at home in your heart, mind and body, and who take joy in your joy. Find people who love you. for real. and who accept you, for real. Just as you are. They’re our there, these people. Your tribe is waiting for you. Don’t stop searching until you find them.

-Scott Stabile

Food for Thought

 

One who loves till her eyes close, is a Mother.
One who loves without an expression in the eyes, is a Father.
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Mother – Introduces you to the world.
Father – Introduces the world to you.
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Mother : Gives you life
Father : Gives you living
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Mother : Makes sure you are not starving.
Father : Makes sure you know the value of starving
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Mother : Personifies Care
Father: Personifies Responsibility
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Mother : Protects you from a fall
Father : Teaches you to get up from a fall.
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Mother : Teaches you walking.
Father : Teaches you walk of life
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Mother : Teaches from her own experiences.
Father : Teaches you to learn from your own experiences.
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Mother : Reflects Ideology
Father : Reflects Reality
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Mother’s love is known to you since birth.
Father’s love is known when you become a Father or mother
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Dedicated to Parents!

25 habits that will help you thrive during season of the corona virus epidemic:

1. Set SMART goals.

Success requires dedicated work. Write your goals and map out the key steps they must take to get closer to their goals every day.

2. They manage their time.

Time is precious and valuable. Successful managers manage their time effectively by cutting out activities that do not align with their goals.

3. They invest in others.

Successful managers continually invest in others. Investing in others includes encouraging, coaching, mentoring, and sponsoring future leaders.

4. They communicate effectively.

Successful managers are good communicators. Effective communication requires attentive listening and asking questions. Good communicators also respond to questions when asked and they share information that will benefit others.

5. They focus on the big picture.

Successful managers engage in strategic planning and effective implementation. To do so, they broaden their perspective to understand how all the pieces of a plan, project or goal it together.

6. They invest in their professional and personal development.

The best managers understand the importance of investing in their professional and personal development. They read books, attend seminars, and / or seek advanced degrees. Continuing education enhances their credentials and allows them to stay on top of trends that will impact their areas of expertise.

7. They take risks.

Taking risks builds confidence and sharpens one’s ability to be decisive. Successful managers are willing to try new things and experiment with new ideas.

8. They have integrity.

Successful managers demonstrate consistency between their words and their actions. Their consistency inspires others to trust them and their ability to lead.

9. They are disciplined.

Self-discipline is an important leadership attribute. It requires engaging in consistent action even when you don’t feel like it. Self-discipline fuels a successful manager’s sense of determination and allows the manager to achieve goals.

10. They are strategic.

Strategic leadership requires thoughtful analysis, planning, and execution. Successful managers invest time to think through various scenarios and consider the consequences of potential actions.

11. They ask for feedback.

The founder of modern management, Peter Drucker, once wrote: “The only way to discover your strengths is through feedback analysis.” Successful managers continually seek feedback to improve their performance and enable continued success.

12. They seek advice.

Thriving managers seek advice to make effective decisions. Knowledgeable advice allows a leader to learn about blind spots. Receiving guidance enhances a manager’s leadership style by offering a different point of view.

13. They promote collaboration.

Successful management requires engaging others and inspiring them toward shared goals. Sharing information and inviting others to participate in collaboration builds trust within a team and a common sense of purpose.

14. They are visible.

Successful managers are visible and create visibility opportunities for their teams. Visibility facilitates connection points with others, spurs interaction, and provides a platform to showcase accomplishments.

15. They are respectful of others.

Trust and respect are fundamental to effective leadership. No one likes to be disrespected or denigrated. Successful managers are courteous and considerate of others. Genuine regard for others engenders loyalty and fosters mutual respect.

16. They promote their team’s accomplishments.

Everyone wants to be part of a winning team. Giving others credit and acknowledging their accomplishments are two ways that successful managers create high achieving teams. Promoting their team’s accomplishments encourages momentum for further achievement.

17. They build a network.

Good working relationships are important for career and personal advancement. Successful managers work at strategically building networks that support their personal and professional goals. They create regular opportunities to establish genuine connections with people in and out of their professional community.

18. They position themselves for the future.

In an ever-changing workplace that is increasingly being impacted by technology and global markets, positioning oneself for the future is critical for career and team success. Successful managers stay on top of industry trends by reading periodicals, attending conferences, and networking. They also seek opportunities to share what they learn with team members and incorporate new methods into their work processes.

19. They navigate office politics.

Successful managers embrace office politics. They understand that office politics is a fact of life. But, they also understand that navigating office politics does not require that they violate their personal values. Rather, they respect their organization’s culture, strategically build their network, and interact sincerely to influence others effectively.

20. They manage conflict.

Workplace conflict is inevitable. Rather than avoid conflict, successful managers seek to address difficult situations professionally and respectfully. They engage in difficult conversations, seek common ground, and preserve relationships.

21. They admit mistakes.

Making mistakes is part of life. Effective leadership calls for transparency and accountability. Successful managers, therefore, admit their mistakes, learn from them, and do better next time.

22. They are humble.

The best managers are humble. Many associate humility with weakness. But, in fact, humility is the ability to accurately assess one’s own strengths and limitations. It takes sober judgment and confidence to self-assess. Genuine humility is an attractive quality and inspires an environment of honesty and trust.

23. They strive for work-life balance.

Maintaining a high-performance work culture requires work-life balance. The best managers work to ensure that their teams stay engaged by encouraging time off and leading by example. All leaders need time to recharge. Taking time off to rest, connect with loved ones, and pursue personal interests puts work into perspective and makes managers more relatable as people.

24. They support their teams.

Managers cannot succeed without the support of their teams. The best managers empower their teams by allowing them to take ownership for their work. Successful managers provide their teams with the encouragement, tools, and resources they need to get their jobs done.

25. They say, “Thank you.”

In a performance driven workplace, expressing gratitude is often overlooked. Thanking others for their contributions let’s them know they are appreciated and valued. Saying “thank you” takes a few seconds of time. But, the impact can last a lifetime.

What you do not know is something that you can learn

A young teacher was teaching arithmetic to students in kindergarten. She was to teach them additions on a particular day. She wanted to make it a bit more interesting to the class of five-year-old students. So, she pulled out three apples from her bag. She called Mark from the last row and started telling him, “Mark, If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?”

Mark looked serious, counted on his fingers and responded confidently, “Four!”

The teacher was disappointed, and it was evident on her face because she thought she would get an effortless correct answer, which is three obviously. But not wanting to show her disappointment, she wanted to try asking the same question again. In her mind, she thought maybe Mark did not hear the question properly or was confused. So, she went on again, “Mark, listen to me very carefully, make no mistake.” Now this time she paced the question slowly so that Mark could get it right, “If I give you one apple and then one apple and then one more apple, how many apples will you have?” She went so slow, that she had no hesitation that she would get the right answer this time.

Mark very confidently responded, “Four!”

The teacher felt very let down. Now the class was giggling looking at the teacher’s reaction. This angered her but she was determined to get it right. So, she thought to herself, may be Mark does not like apples, let me try oranges. So, without losing her patience, she cajoled Mark and said, “Mark, let’s do it one last time. I suppose you like oranges, more right? So, If I give you one orange and then one orange and then one more orange, how many oranges will you have?”

Mark was not too sure why the teacher was making him do this again, but he saw the disappointment on her face, so he counted again on his fingers with a little lesser confidence responded, “Three!”

The teacher thumped the desk almost celebrating the answer. She was sure that Mark now got the logic right. She still wanted to prove the point so she knelt down to reach Mark and went ahead asking him “Very good Mark, now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?”

Mark saw the glow on her face and so with full confidence answered, “Four!”

The teacher was aghast. “How Mark, how?” She asked Mark in a very irritated tone

Mark by now was trembling but replied, “Because I already have one apple in my bag.”

Judge others when you are perfect: Very often we judge people for the choices they make or for the decisions they make. Very rarely, do we try and understand the options they had to pick from.

You don’t know what you don’t know until you know it: The foolish and the arrogant ones think they know it all, the smart and the bold ones, pretend they know it all. The experienced and the wise ones accept that they don’t know it all

There are always two sides to every story: When you have to take sides, remember every story has two sides. One side suits one party better and the other side, the other party. Choose the path of the truth before you decide, which side to take.

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